cordoncordon said:
I strongly disagree with you IQQI. And you need to speak for yourself. As I have learned, money does not buy happiness. If the ex is happy being a restaurant manager and wants to work there to get experience to further his goals in that field, and if he is happy doing it? Who are we to say what is good for him?
Wow Iqqi, just wow. You really went there. No one is in his league? Lower levels? You really did cut down about 3/4 of the people who post here. Again, you are talking strictly about money are you not? And this is no offense to BB, but are you serious? He has a known bad drug and alcohol history and who attends AA meetings for one. Anyone with that on their resume should never think they are going down to someone else's "level", because in my book that is a HUGE RED flag and personality flaw....and I really hope he doesn't think that and I don't believe he does.
As far as money. I live a few miles from him in a wealthier city. Make mid 6 figures every year. Does that make me better than him or more ambitious? NO. And I know many others do very well financially here as well.
But forget all of that. MONEY AND MATERIAL THINGS DO NOT BUY HAPPINESS. How many times do we have to see real life examples of this?
Just stop with that.
The bottom line he was sticking up for a cheater and got upset when some didn't agree with him. That's on him. No one else. Not everyone in life is going to kiss your azz.
Well, quickly...
I know money does not buy happiness. I am a firm believer in that. But BB is accomplished. He has a very, very good life that he made for himself. He does not have the problems that 99% of the guys on this site has. He is successful. Most guys on here simply are not. Not with women, and also not in life. Yeah, some are. But most are not. This is a site full of frustrated men, and they are frustrated because they don't have what they want. BB's frustration with the men here has to do with
that fact, and how most here just want to b!tch and whine instead of achieving goals. Hell, they are pretty much here just to b!tch and whine, and not achieve goals. It's pathetic! I agree with him on that.
His background has nothing to do with where he is now and his success now. If anything, it should be even more of a motivator for those here who did not battle such obstacles. You mean an overweight AFC crackhead could become wealthy, with a nice house, awesome career, and hot English chick wife all before the age of 30.... and you can't even get a girl to like you back? (in general I'm saying.)
That's nice you do well, but while you are condemning the chick don't make me remind you of your own cheating, branch swinging ways.
cordoncordon said:
Iqqi I don't know what you do now, but I remember plenty of posts from you about how you basically slept all day, didn't do much, lived and slept in your van, and had no money and no job. And you really can say that about this guy? Especially he being in CA which believe me is not exactly a hotbed in the USA for jobs right now.
Wow.
You are trying to justify this girl cheating, just like you usually stick up for the woman no matter what they do.
Well not that my life has anything to do with the topic, but yeah, I took a serious chance in life with absolutely nothing, and now I am doing quite fine for myself, thank you for being concerned. I am doing very well financially, I travel often which as always been my goal, I have plenty of free time, I am in a happy relationship that is going on three years, I live in an awesome home, have awesome new friendships... I can't even imagine where I was three years ago my leaps have been so magnificent. And that is all thanks to my inability to just sit and rot and b!tch and whine.
I was in a serious rut that is for sure, but I had more balls than most of the men on this site, and took that chance to make something happen. Which I did, with absolutely no support or money. Please, take an example from me if you must. My life is pretty golden right now. It's not the peaks or even the valleys that define you, more the actions you take in life.
As far as the girl... I never defended her at all or even brought her up. You are jumping all around and tying things together that don't go together. I am not even defending BB, I am explaining and clarifying his last posts to those who seem to lack the comprehension of what he just said.