Becuase I am married and my wife is not a bat**** crazy BPD woman, our marriage has very little drama. we get along, have sex more than enough and we like each other's company, and have a good understanding of each other. so very ralrey do I actually havr something from my own pesonal life do I get to share any more no, lol my fun these days comes from watching our social circle who as of now, there are about 30 of us andnone of them are married. we got it all. ugly girls, fat girls, smoking hot girls, beta's, ambitous guys, guys whoa re fat, guys are somewhat in shape, guys with a li9tlte game, guys with no game, ssingle mom's, divorced mom's it's all there. it's like a real life reality show. anyway, and the only reason I am even posting this is beucase of the guy who yesterday stated he wished he could get girls through his social circle. let this be exhibit A. Okay, this guy, he isn't a friend of mine or of my wife's but he has been dating this girl who is a friend of my wife for like 4 years now and well he is just one of the crew now i suppose. the girl, very good looking, skinny, about my height 5'8, brunette long hair, decent but not killer body, a solid solid 7. maybe even an 8 to some guys but i am harsh, she's very pretty but nothing stands out about her, i only give exotic women an 8 or higher. they have been dating for about 4 years. they started dating around the time my wife and i started dating. and from all accounts she has been smitten with him. she really digs him. he's not an alpha male he's just..a decent looking guy who is, well an avg dude. he's good looking i can see why women pay him attention, he also can dress pretty well which is something i don't say about most guys. he carries himself very well. but there is a problem. a problem i foresaw coming about a year or even 2 ago, what started out being a small problem but has now become a big problem, and the problem is that, well, the guy just has zero ambition. the guy works as a floor manager at a pretty spiffy restaurant. Not CUT or anything like that but a nice restaurant not red lobster or anything. and they were dating when they were 23 and at 23, a guy working at a restaurant is not the biggest of deals. at 27, a guy working at a restaurant,l becomes a pretty big deal. it's time to ante up. the girl, worked at the horse track with my wife but she like my wife gave it up, it's hard work and it's demanding work and it's not meant for women over the age of 25. she just gave it up a few months ago and she got this job as a receptionist at this office, and she has become, and without the guys Knowles she has become very crazy about a guy who works there at her office. i don't even know what the fvck he does but from what i understand he is good but not great looking, but he is very cool and from what i understand, makes very good money. drives a beamer, dresses like an adult is supposed to dress, carries himself like a man who is going somewhere. anyway, she starts flirting with the dude at work casually. then he flirts back. she flirts more. they go to lunch a few times. then when the boyfriend is at work they go to dinner a few times. the more time she spends with this dude the more she likes him. the more she doesn't like her current bf. now, i have known about this since the day she met the guy at owrk. myw ife's and i agreement allows me to get all kinda juicy **** like this as long as i don't say anything to anyone. she won't admit it but my wife is pretty sure they have had sex. call it a woman's intuition or whatever. and honestly, the girl is not a slut. she's done something quite slutty but she isn't really what i woudl call a slut. she hasn't cheated her BF up into now. anyway the BF comes to me about a week ago and, for some reason all of the guy friends tend to come to me when they want women advice. i mean they never listen lol but they come anyway. so he tells me he thinks his GF is falling out of love with him (i wanted to tell son love don't live here anymore lol) and what he could do. i mean, by then t's too late WTF can i say? go back to school and get a degree in 1 week? anyway, **** hit the fan a few days ago. the guy, who i would never classify as real beta in the past, has just become like super pathetic..and he does some snooping and somehow finds out that she is seeing this dude at work. he confronts her and he is crying about how you could do this to me i thought you loved me. she doesn't even blink and tells him she doesn't want to date him anymore and tells him that she will have her stuff out of his place by the end of the week. she had already mentally moved on. she just didn't want to make her living situation sticky. so now she has to stay with us until she can get her a new place, woopie. she's cool i don't mind but still. and honestly, i side with her. and i m going to tell you why as a male you have to always be moving forward. if not it's no one's fault but your own if you get left behind. women aren't men. the biggest mistake that men make is thinking beucase a woman loved you at 22, that she will love you for the exact same reasons when she's 32. **** changes people grow up. if you aren't growing up with her why should she continue to date you? hpergany is a ***** but it is what it is. I'm not saying you shoudl become a hermit and just work and be this guy who doesn't see women until he is 35 years old but, you shoudl always be doing something to improve your situation and outlook on life. the girl is not a rocket scientist but she is a sweet non slut girl who can and did do better than a 27 year old shift manager at a restaurant. at 23 years old, how much money you bring home a year is not the biggest concern on earth. being fun, being good looing, great sex, is what' simportant when you are 23. and while that' stuff that you still need to do when you are 27, you need to have had evolved some in those years as well. she's 26, and **** she has to do what's in her best interest for her long term. honestly if the dude would have just attempted to move forward in life i think she would have stuck it out. she liked him. she never came out and said it but, **** it gets old never being able to go anywhere never being able to do anything. we go to hawaii at the end of the year and the only way she/they can come is if i pay for it. that **** gets old. that's fine when you are 20 **** that is even fine somewhat when you are 25. but the closer you get to 30 you need to have show some type of evolution in your life. what men do not understand is that women, do not havre to play by these rules whatsoever and that's what gets them int rouble. take this girl. again, very good looking. she was good looking in high school and got to date the jocks then. she was good looking in college and got to date the frat boys then. she was good looking when she got out of college and gets to date the guy with his own place who has some money in his pocket and likes to havre fun. and now she's still good looking and gets to trade in for the 12 model that has a career and can do ****. men think that just b eucase she "loved" me now that she will "love me" then. it doesn't work like that. at least not in the real world. now i got to deal with this fvcking douche crying and **** and coming over and causing scenes and she is living here for a week or two until she can get situtated and you know she is going to want to bring her dude over.