Yo GtarPlayr73,
This Sosuave Army is a deverse one. There are MANY different methods that we men here use to teach and/or get our points across. Some of us use tough love...and some of use tough love, but WITHOUT the "LOVE". lol But I think our motivations are still the same though...
Either way, I believe you already know that most of us here want to see you (and OURSELVES as well), do better out here in the field, and to obtain some REAL quantifiable success. So I, for one, want to add my voice to those who give you a "pat on the back" for having THE BALLS to just get out there and "DO THE DAMM THANG" in the first place.
You just keep on doing the things that you SEE that are working for you, and keep jettisoning the things that you SEE that are not. From the comments you made in one of your last post, you are already further along in area of DJ TACTIC CALIBRATION than you think you are.
Believe it or not, many people come to us, sign up, read the DJ Bible, and NEVER question "some" of the things it espouses.
What YOU have already discovered is that there really is NO guarranteed strategy or tactic that will get you the SAME results, or the same success with EVERY woman. Getting good at this dating shyt is as much about being "light on your feet" as it is about just being armed with knowledge.
What the DJ Bible really offers are INVALUABLE guideposts and rules for you to live by as you make your way across the burning sands of the "dating diaspora"-----on your way to being a BETTER MAN overall.
Think of all the DJ rules as mostly tried and true TRAINING WHEELS. Many men have taken severe hits FOR US in order to provide us with these blueprints that we use to build ourselves up into better men----so we honor THEM, and their sacrafice by using them.
So it's okay from time to time to question some of the things you learn here, but only do so After you have actually put that knowledge to the test----in the field (like you are already doing).
I appreciate your honesty about the "emailing her" thing, and for the other things that you, and others share with us here. This is how we all learn. This is how we all STAY ON POINT. By being honest----especially with ourselves. I've been where you are. And CLOSURE is something that no one can give you but you YOURSELF. And the methods you choose to "get it" will grow and evolve over time.
There will always be differences of opinion, and there will always be exceptions to the rules. But I think most here would agree that inner game and overall CONFIDENCE are the goalposts you should be continuously aiming at.
The more you use the stuff you learn here, the more confident you will become at wielding the "DJ weapons". Why? Because you will have battle-tested them YOUR DAMM SELF. You won't have to ASK whether or not this will work or that will work...you'll KNOW it by experience. And your confidence will grow by leaps and bounds.
Confidence is situation specific. And we GAIN confidence by remembering our past successes and then transferring that inner sense of empowerment over to the OTHER areas of our lives that STILL challenge us.
Many of us here have not forgotten our own humble beginnings earmarked by strategic stumbles, devastating blows to our egos, and severe bouts or ONEitis.
And those of us who have not...SALUTE YOU.
Remember this:
LIFE is always a learning experience. Continue to take adivice from the men here who both "show", and "give" you respect. Trial and error makes us ALL better man OVER TIME, "if" we are PERSISTANT. The acquisition AND APPLICATION of the knowledge you get here WILL create great CONFIDENCE within you.
And a man with confidence, self-control, and a good sense of humor can do ALMOST anything in the dating arena and still KNOW he'll ultimately be SUCCESSFUL.
And you'll know when you've reached THAT level when you NO LONGER feel the need to SECOND-GUESS yourself in the field.
March on.
