GtarPlayr73
Senior Don Juan
Hey guys, it's been a while since my last post. I am now settled into a new apartment and am enjoying town life. I had THE falling-out with the landlady's daughter last week when i told her i was going to date other women. Boy, she did not like that and proceeded to unload on me, saying i was very selfish, had zero communication skills, and was "kind of a schmuck". Some friend, after almost a year, but no surprise. When i complained about the lack of sex and all the ambiguity, she said she felt i was too sexually demanding and it never seemed like i wanted to be around her. I told her that i never felt wanted by her. Her boy-toy finally grows a pair, asserts himself, and she insults him. She suggested we take time off and she would talk to me at some later point. I agreed. Haven't heard from her in almost a week.
So i joined Match.com over a month ago. Contacted a 35 year old match and we met up last Thursday at a local Thai restaurant. She was actually better looking than her photos and taller too. We seemed to hit it off great and conversation flowed. She was all smiles and excited to hear all about me and my family. We were the last customers in the place when they started to close at 9:40. She said she had a great time and asked me if i wanted to meet again. I said, yes, i did and suggested sometime during the weekend. We agreed on Saturday afternoon. She emailed me the next day, saying what a great time she had. I replied in kind and we continued to email and plan the afternoon.
Yesterday, i was late leaving for her place and got there 15 minutes late (i called her and told her i would be late). She said it was no problem, but i thought it had to go in her mental checklist as a strike. Got there and she was a bit distant compared to Thursday night. Friendly, but still cool, somehow. She gave me the tour of her apartment and then we made plans for the Boston Aquarium. She drove us to her workplace's garage. (She works as a web designer for a major publisher. I estimate she makes $60 - $70K). We then walked across Boston to the Aquarium. As we talked, she revealed she never watches movies at home (something i certainly do) and that she works even at home. She is an extrovert and i'm an introvert, so it was already a strained match. She paid for our IMAX movie tickets and said i could cover the Aquarium tickets. When we got out of the movie, we discovered that the Aquarium tickets were significantly more expensive than we anticipated and we decided to head to the North End where she had reserved a table in an Italian restaurant. More talking, a stop at a cafe - where i covered our drinks. Convo in the cafe was lackluster. I complimented her on her beautiful feet. She had just had a pedicure. When we got to the restaurant, it was immediately clear from the decor and setting that it was going to be expensive. Normally, this wouldn't be a problem as i welcome fine Italian food in Boston's North End on a date, but i have just moved into a new apartment and money is tight at the moment. We went dutch on the first date and i planned the same, of course. I ordered a beer instead of wine (much cheaper) and i ordered the least expensive entree ($18). She ordered a glass of wine and a $25 entree. Convo picked up a bit. We talked about our families and personalities. She tried to split the check, even though she bought a more expensive entree and wine. I kindly informed her that i always itemize the tab and pay for what i order. She said no prob and still paid $60 out of an $83 tab. I protested that she was paying a bit too much and she laughed it off and told me not to worry, she does care, she does it all the time. We then walked back to her car, talking the whole way. The convo was chit-chatty but not scintilating. I had kinoed her here and there the whole day. She NEVER kinoed me back, nor did i ever pick up any vibes that she wanted me.
We drove back to her place and when we got inside, it was quite hot. I was sweating and it was uncomfortable. She made no effort to arrange for us to "get close", like, say sitting on a couch. Instead, she sat me down at her dining table to review the photos we took during the day on her laptop. She then asked to see my photos of Italy (which i had brought with me) and she looked through them at a fairly rapid pace and didn't ask me any questions about them. After she was done, she showed me prints of photos she took of Boston and Italy. When i was through with those, she looked around and said she didn’t want to seem like she was kicking me out, but she was really tired. The time was 9:05...I said I understood and gathered my things. She walked me out to her porch, thanked me for a great time. It was totally clear that she had decided at some point that she was all set with me and had done the bare minimum to not look completely disinterested before rushing me out the door.
On the drive home, I concluded that we were done and i expected a polite rejection email the next morning. Sure enough, that's exactly what i got in my inbox this morning. She said we were total opposites and our quirks would drive each other crazy. I replied that i agreed and was glad she and i were on the same wavelength.
So, onto the next one. I do believe we were incompatible as she is extroverted and i am introverted. Totally different mindsets, energy levels, lifestyles. I also think she wasn't happy that i didn't let her get away with splitting the tab after she ordered more than me. I could be mistaken, but she was a bit less rosey about me after that. What's more, she protested when i observed that we were complete opposites earlier in the day. Now she totally agrees? Only after she saw i wasn't going to take unfair check-splitting. I'm proud of myself for that.
Onto the next one. I am no longer going to even consider dating an extrovert. Opposites may attract, but they have nothing to offer once the stars clear from one's eyes.
So i joined Match.com over a month ago. Contacted a 35 year old match and we met up last Thursday at a local Thai restaurant. She was actually better looking than her photos and taller too. We seemed to hit it off great and conversation flowed. She was all smiles and excited to hear all about me and my family. We were the last customers in the place when they started to close at 9:40. She said she had a great time and asked me if i wanted to meet again. I said, yes, i did and suggested sometime during the weekend. We agreed on Saturday afternoon. She emailed me the next day, saying what a great time she had. I replied in kind and we continued to email and plan the afternoon.
Yesterday, i was late leaving for her place and got there 15 minutes late (i called her and told her i would be late). She said it was no problem, but i thought it had to go in her mental checklist as a strike. Got there and she was a bit distant compared to Thursday night. Friendly, but still cool, somehow. She gave me the tour of her apartment and then we made plans for the Boston Aquarium. She drove us to her workplace's garage. (She works as a web designer for a major publisher. I estimate she makes $60 - $70K). We then walked across Boston to the Aquarium. As we talked, she revealed she never watches movies at home (something i certainly do) and that she works even at home. She is an extrovert and i'm an introvert, so it was already a strained match. She paid for our IMAX movie tickets and said i could cover the Aquarium tickets. When we got out of the movie, we discovered that the Aquarium tickets were significantly more expensive than we anticipated and we decided to head to the North End where she had reserved a table in an Italian restaurant. More talking, a stop at a cafe - where i covered our drinks. Convo in the cafe was lackluster. I complimented her on her beautiful feet. She had just had a pedicure. When we got to the restaurant, it was immediately clear from the decor and setting that it was going to be expensive. Normally, this wouldn't be a problem as i welcome fine Italian food in Boston's North End on a date, but i have just moved into a new apartment and money is tight at the moment. We went dutch on the first date and i planned the same, of course. I ordered a beer instead of wine (much cheaper) and i ordered the least expensive entree ($18). She ordered a glass of wine and a $25 entree. Convo picked up a bit. We talked about our families and personalities. She tried to split the check, even though she bought a more expensive entree and wine. I kindly informed her that i always itemize the tab and pay for what i order. She said no prob and still paid $60 out of an $83 tab. I protested that she was paying a bit too much and she laughed it off and told me not to worry, she does care, she does it all the time. We then walked back to her car, talking the whole way. The convo was chit-chatty but not scintilating. I had kinoed her here and there the whole day. She NEVER kinoed me back, nor did i ever pick up any vibes that she wanted me.
We drove back to her place and when we got inside, it was quite hot. I was sweating and it was uncomfortable. She made no effort to arrange for us to "get close", like, say sitting on a couch. Instead, she sat me down at her dining table to review the photos we took during the day on her laptop. She then asked to see my photos of Italy (which i had brought with me) and she looked through them at a fairly rapid pace and didn't ask me any questions about them. After she was done, she showed me prints of photos she took of Boston and Italy. When i was through with those, she looked around and said she didn’t want to seem like she was kicking me out, but she was really tired. The time was 9:05...I said I understood and gathered my things. She walked me out to her porch, thanked me for a great time. It was totally clear that she had decided at some point that she was all set with me and had done the bare minimum to not look completely disinterested before rushing me out the door.
On the drive home, I concluded that we were done and i expected a polite rejection email the next morning. Sure enough, that's exactly what i got in my inbox this morning. She said we were total opposites and our quirks would drive each other crazy. I replied that i agreed and was glad she and i were on the same wavelength.
So, onto the next one. I do believe we were incompatible as she is extroverted and i am introverted. Totally different mindsets, energy levels, lifestyles. I also think she wasn't happy that i didn't let her get away with splitting the tab after she ordered more than me. I could be mistaken, but she was a bit less rosey about me after that. What's more, she protested when i observed that we were complete opposites earlier in the day. Now she totally agrees? Only after she saw i wasn't going to take unfair check-splitting. I'm proud of myself for that.
Onto the next one. I am no longer going to even consider dating an extrovert. Opposites may attract, but they have nothing to offer once the stars clear from one's eyes.
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