HappyHarryHardon
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Anyone ever done this and how was it? I might ask a girl to come meet me at the zoo on Saturday. Not sure yet though.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
+1. Plus if you don't like her, it's easy to cut and run and do other things.Uncharted said:Go for coffee. What if you don't like her or she's annoying? Then you have to spend the whole day at the zoo with her.
Coffee or alcohol is the ideal first date.
1. Short
2. Cheap
3. You sit face to face so you talk and learn about her.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Agreed 110%. I go where I want to go if I'm the one doing the asking or telling. Whether it's the Zoo, out to eat or someplace I want to go to or try. If not the chick can keep it moving and we'll meet up some other time. If not. See ya.backbreaker said:I like animals so i've been tot he zoo a few times for first dates. in particular when i first moved to LA / del mar and went to the San Diego zoo.
my rule of thumb was that i was always going to do **** that i wanted to do on myf irst date. rather it's whatever.
remember you aer trying to screen for interest. do **** you want to do and see if she tags along. if she doesn't want to do it and wants to ***** and whine then she isn't into you it's that simple girls who don't like you will do **** they dont'; want to do just to be around you, TRUST ME.
that's really why it's so hard for you dudes to get past the first freaking stage, youd on't develop a persona / attitude / definitive personality. if you don't stand out as different what the **** is she going to be in a hurry to watn to make a move on you for? yeah i got flaked on quite a bit on first dates but dammit the ones who showed up i knew were into me beucase we were doing **** i wanted to do. Zoo's, beaches, live jazz ****, **** i want to do,. which allows me to be more aggressive on the first date beucase i know they are there to see ME, not to get me to spend money or to "get out the house" and in turn makes me more attractive in their eyes
get out of the damn starbucks date mold and grow some balls. pick a place you want to go to on your date and stick by your guns. even if she says she doesn't wanna tell her bye.
if you don't have any balls, how can you expect a woman to blow on them later that night lol? you gotta grow balls. stop walking on eggshells with these broads. this is what the **** we are going to do, whatever it is, and you're gonna like it.
backbreaker: "hey broad we are going to to the zoo"
broad: "yeah i wanted to to this or that"
b ackbreaker: lol you are assuming i'm asking you, i'm not, we are going to the zoo, get dressed i will be there in an hour"
backbreaker: dial tone
on top of that if a girl is that much of a prude where she sucks on a date at the freaking zoo then you know what that tells me all i need to know. lol she's going to be a prude at the zoo but she's just the belle of the ball at the coffee shop. doesn't work like that.
if a girl can't have fun at the zoo or go eat a scope of ice cream with me than **** her she can go.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
n taking a girl to the zoo on the first date is EXACTLY how you screenPackers2010 said:i would go to the zoo. on like the 3rd or 4th day.
not the first. first is for screening. ( and obvs the fook) everything after that is all the lovely dovey stuff.
you ****ing "chill"Social_Leper said:Chill...
Espi gets it. Something like the zoo screams "try too hard".
OP, keep dates minimal until you at least think this girl might be worth your time. Plus the zoo is strictly something you can really only visit on the weekends and tends to be a half day affair. Time consuming.
Why would you want to waste a potential free day, of only two in the entire week, on a girl when you have no idea what she might be like?
I value my free time and would take a coffee date or "drinks" after work on a Wednesday/Thursday over dates like the zoo any day of the week. If you're going to get laid then where you take her really isn't that important.
I think you are missing the point here...it shouldn't be about the girl or what she thinks...it should be about what you WANT to do and then she follows...this sets the precedent for a healthy relationship in which she follows your agenda and plans.....never go somewhere you don't want to with a new chick....if you want the zoo then go to the zoo...if you want to go to a freakin daycare center than do that...the girl should just be happy to tag along...Social_Leper said:Chill...
Espi gets it. Something like the zoo screams "try too hard".
OP, keep dates minimal until you at least think this girl might be worth your time. Plus the zoo is strictly something you can really only visit on the weekends and tends to be a half day affair. Time consuming.
Why would you want to waste a potential free day, of only two in the entire week, on a girl when you have no idea what she might be like?
I value my free time and would take a coffee date or "drinks" after work on a Wednesday/Thursday over dates like the zoo any day of the week. If you're going to get laid then where you take her really isn't that important.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.