"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Die Hard

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Yuck, just feel like venting for a moment here.

Met a chick a while ago. Very good looking but hot/cold behavior from the start, my gut was warning me that I should stay away from her. We clicked from the moment we met, she gave lots of IOI's and I was doing a good job at gaming her. But the sudden turnarounds from hot to cold in her behavior got worse fast so I decided to give up on my attempts to game her and withdraw myself from her before I'd get sucked into that pathological BPD interaction, you know...

However, we have mutual friends, I run into her at events etc. So I can't really avoid her, I HAVE to interact with her either way...

So what's a man to do? She's very hot so I feel physically attracted to her and I can't just turn that off. I keep my distance from her, I don't walk up to her when I see her and don't look at her either. But she has seen my interest in her the first few times we met and won't accept the fact that I chose to withdraw after that.

So even though I basically ignore her, eventually she always comes up to me by herself and starts acting flirty. Very hard to stay cool and "uninterested" during those interactions because I DO feel attracted to her. But I just know this girl is trouble and the appropriate response to Cluster B type girls like her is "RUN, FORREST! RUN!", so I keep my distance after all and just try acting business like.

But in the meanwhile I can feel it, I can feel her getting into my head. When an HB9 steps in front of you and starts acting flirty, almost on a weekly basis, it's gonna effect you whether you like it or not. I'm in control on the outside, I don't respond to her flirting and I don't act negative to her either. Yet, when I'm at home later that night, I can feel my thoughts turning towards her and I can't deny it to myself: I desire her...

The only way to win the game, is by not playing it. That's the only correct way to deal with Cluster B nutcases who try to draw you into their sick world. But I can't avoid her, I will run into her and I'll have to interact with her (unless I would tell her to FVCK OFF and stay away from me, lol. But she would interpret that as clear proof that she has her hooks sunken into me, which would only motivate her to continue playing her game, it's what they feed off...)

I kinda feel boxed in here, like some kid who needs to cross a bridge on his way home from school everyday and a few bullies wait for him on the bridge to take his money. They're bigger than he, so it's no use fighting them, and there's no other bridge leading to his home so he can't avoid them either. Tough luck...

Oh well, this stuff is good motivation for me to get more plates spinning ASAP!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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As much as you are into her, always remember there is some guy out there who is sick of her sh*t.

Focus on/build your harem, and she will fall to the waistline.
 

Die Hard

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Thanks for the advice, man.

Well, actually I am that guy who's sick of her shyt. But as is always the case with these toxic bytches, I feel strong attraction to her at the same time.

After the BPD experience I had two years ago, I set a rule for myself: "Next time you encounter one, you just keep it at ONE night, just fvck a bytch ONE time and then move on."

However, I don't even think I can pull that off without getting myself into trouble. Seriously, I can feel the toxic effects of this woman on my mind already...

You know, days are getting dark, weather is getting cold and life feels like a drag lately... But she offers an out, makes me feel something, awakens the fire inside me. I know the passion and intensity that one can experience with these chicks and it's very tempting. But I also know all about the negative effects that they bring and it's not worth it!

So yeah, I'll work on other plates and let her fall to the waistline.
 
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