Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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Yuck, just feel like venting for a moment here.
Met a chick a while ago. Very good looking but hot/cold behavior from the start, my gut was warning me that I should stay away from her. We clicked from the moment we met, she gave lots of IOI's and I was doing a good job at gaming her. But the sudden turnarounds from hot to cold in her behavior got worse fast so I decided to give up on my attempts to game her and withdraw myself from her before I'd get sucked into that pathological BPD interaction, you know...
However, we have mutual friends, I run into her at events etc. So I can't really avoid her, I HAVE to interact with her either way...
So what's a man to do? She's very hot so I feel physically attracted to her and I can't just turn that off. I keep my distance from her, I don't walk up to her when I see her and don't look at her either. But she has seen my interest in her the first few times we met and won't accept the fact that I chose to withdraw after that.
So even though I basically ignore her, eventually she always comes up to me by herself and starts acting flirty. Very hard to stay cool and "uninterested" during those interactions because I DO feel attracted to her. But I just know this girl is trouble and the appropriate response to Cluster B type girls like her is "RUN, FORREST! RUN!", so I keep my distance after all and just try acting business like.
But in the meanwhile I can feel it, I can feel her getting into my head. When an HB9 steps in front of you and starts acting flirty, almost on a weekly basis, it's gonna effect you whether you like it or not. I'm in control on the outside, I don't respond to her flirting and I don't act negative to her either. Yet, when I'm at home later that night, I can feel my thoughts turning towards her and I can't deny it to myself: I desire her...
The only way to win the game, is by not playing it. That's the only correct way to deal with Cluster B nutcases who try to draw you into their sick world. But I can't avoid her, I will run into her and I'll have to interact with her (unless I would tell her to FVCK OFF and stay away from me, lol. But she would interpret that as clear proof that she has her hooks sunken into me, which would only motivate her to continue playing her game, it's what they feed off...)
I kinda feel boxed in here, like some kid who needs to cross a bridge on his way home from school everyday and a few bullies wait for him on the bridge to take his money. They're bigger than he, so it's no use fighting them, and there's no other bridge leading to his home so he can't avoid them either. Tough luck...
Oh well, this stuff is good motivation for me to get more plates spinning ASAP!
Met a chick a while ago. Very good looking but hot/cold behavior from the start, my gut was warning me that I should stay away from her. We clicked from the moment we met, she gave lots of IOI's and I was doing a good job at gaming her. But the sudden turnarounds from hot to cold in her behavior got worse fast so I decided to give up on my attempts to game her and withdraw myself from her before I'd get sucked into that pathological BPD interaction, you know...
However, we have mutual friends, I run into her at events etc. So I can't really avoid her, I HAVE to interact with her either way...
So what's a man to do? She's very hot so I feel physically attracted to her and I can't just turn that off. I keep my distance from her, I don't walk up to her when I see her and don't look at her either. But she has seen my interest in her the first few times we met and won't accept the fact that I chose to withdraw after that.
So even though I basically ignore her, eventually she always comes up to me by herself and starts acting flirty. Very hard to stay cool and "uninterested" during those interactions because I DO feel attracted to her. But I just know this girl is trouble and the appropriate response to Cluster B type girls like her is "RUN, FORREST! RUN!", so I keep my distance after all and just try acting business like.
But in the meanwhile I can feel it, I can feel her getting into my head. When an HB9 steps in front of you and starts acting flirty, almost on a weekly basis, it's gonna effect you whether you like it or not. I'm in control on the outside, I don't respond to her flirting and I don't act negative to her either. Yet, when I'm at home later that night, I can feel my thoughts turning towards her and I can't deny it to myself: I desire her...
The only way to win the game, is by not playing it. That's the only correct way to deal with Cluster B nutcases who try to draw you into their sick world. But I can't avoid her, I will run into her and I'll have to interact with her (unless I would tell her to FVCK OFF and stay away from me, lol. But she would interpret that as clear proof that she has her hooks sunken into me, which would only motivate her to continue playing her game, it's what they feed off...)
I kinda feel boxed in here, like some kid who needs to cross a bridge on his way home from school everyday and a few bullies wait for him on the bridge to take his money. They're bigger than he, so it's no use fighting them, and there's no other bridge leading to his home so he can't avoid them either. Tough luck...
Oh well, this stuff is good motivation for me to get more plates spinning ASAP!
