"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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you've seen a girl with a guy before, can you just ask if she's single?

mungro

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Quick question, if you've seen a girl around with a guy before, you sort of know the girl but do not have any other relations, you don't know her friends that well either. Next time you see her around, can you just call her out and ask if she's going out with "that dude"?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Charm

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"I seen you with your boyfriend."
Her: (either: That wasnt my boyfriend. I dont have a boyfriend) or (Oh ya, you did? )
 

DJHoolahoop

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What, so she can say "I can tell you are"?

for me, I don't treat them any differently than I would if they were my friend. So when I like a girl and am attracted to her, that's enough for me to want to know more about her. I invite her out and don't push for the specifics. For me holding onto someone isn't so important as the experience, so simply approaching it that way will either have her joining you or you going on without them. Knowing she's single means that the obvious next thing would be for you two to hang out which means she has to think about it and wonder about it as opposed to approaching it like meeting a new friend. Only its a chick we're talking about and there's things we'd do that we wouldn't do with other friends, unless they too were chicks lol.

I mean seriously, how else are we supposed to get to know someone?
 

Tomatoes

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I was going to go after a HB last night who was sitting with a guy for a little bit. Was going to get my wing to destract him. I was thinking Brother until he stroked her leg.....It looked like they were a couple from that point on so i didnt bother. A little scouting and you can tell......You shud be able to tell from body lang if they are BFGF or not. If you cant.....even if he is her BF hes an AFC not showing it and you should give it a shot anyways and see......what you got to lose?

Sarge On
 

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You should never ask a women if she has a b/f. It is AFC. Assume she is single, it will project you as being confident. In the end, you will find out relatively quickly if she has a b/f. A DJ will be making his advances known and a quality women with a b/f will let you know early on. If not she's a cheatin ho and can have your way with her then send her to the curb where she belongs.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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