"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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you've seen a girl with a guy before, can you just ask if she's single?

mungro

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Quick question, if you've seen a girl around with a guy before, you sort of know the girl but do not have any other relations, you don't know her friends that well either. Next time you see her around, can you just call her out and ask if she's going out with "that dude"?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Charm

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"I seen you with your boyfriend."
Her: (either: That wasnt my boyfriend. I dont have a boyfriend) or (Oh ya, you did? )
 

DJHoolahoop

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What, so she can say "I can tell you are"?

for me, I don't treat them any differently than I would if they were my friend. So when I like a girl and am attracted to her, that's enough for me to want to know more about her. I invite her out and don't push for the specifics. For me holding onto someone isn't so important as the experience, so simply approaching it that way will either have her joining you or you going on without them. Knowing she's single means that the obvious next thing would be for you two to hang out which means she has to think about it and wonder about it as opposed to approaching it like meeting a new friend. Only its a chick we're talking about and there's things we'd do that we wouldn't do with other friends, unless they too were chicks lol.

I mean seriously, how else are we supposed to get to know someone?
 

Tomatoes

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I was going to go after a HB last night who was sitting with a guy for a little bit. Was going to get my wing to destract him. I was thinking Brother until he stroked her leg.....It looked like they were a couple from that point on so i didnt bother. A little scouting and you can tell......You shud be able to tell from body lang if they are BFGF or not. If you cant.....even if he is her BF hes an AFC not showing it and you should give it a shot anyways and see......what you got to lose?

Sarge On
 

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You should never ask a women if she has a b/f. It is AFC. Assume she is single, it will project you as being confident. In the end, you will find out relatively quickly if she has a b/f. A DJ will be making his advances known and a quality women with a b/f will let you know early on. If not she's a cheatin ho and can have your way with her then send her to the curb where she belongs.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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