"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"You're such a little kid"

Audiophile

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I always get this comment from girls. I don't have any problem with it because I'm just having fun/enjoying myself. I just like to mess around and stuff, being playful, etc... and I always get told that I'm exactly like a kid. Is this something that I should work on (acting slightly more "mature")? I'm chill when I want to be, and playful when I feel like it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mantis Toboggan

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If you're happy and carefree and enjoy life and getting laid, then who cares?

We all weren't meant to be the serious "James Bond" types.

If you're a goofball and not getting laid, then sure, you might need to grow up a bit. It's all about what's working for you.
 

ARrocket

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Mantis Toboggan (I still can't take that name seriously haha) is correct, it all depends on whether or not it's working out for you.

If you're a clown and not making girls feel a SEXUAL attraction for you, it's time for a change. You can be carefree, fun, etc, without making a fool of yourself.

But, if it's working, who gives a fvck?
 

Warrior74

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"what are you a mom?, you got those jessica simpson mom jeans in your closet? LOL, you love my kiddie style! "
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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