"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
"You're Luring Me In"
- Thread starter Sofomore
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Hmm, every time I pulled back from advancing she would tell me her friends were waiting.
I need to either be more direct and say, no you're staying here, or be like "have a good night!"
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
And you think ****y & funny would help? Not everything is solved with some PUA material.Sofomore said:Well I kept advancing, slowly pushing her buttons. Her friends were leaving (her ride), so she asked how she would get home...I said I'd find her a ride.
Hmm, every time I pulled back from advancing she would tell me her friends were waiting.
I need to either be more direct and say, no you're staying here, or be like "have a good night!"
All you had to say was, "I'll drive you home later." Either she buys it, and that's her excuse to stay. Or she talks herself out of it, and goes with her friends.
It ain't about ****y & funny.
I'm in college, so it was my house party. There's no way either of us could have drove.Iceberg said:And you think ****y & funny would help? Not everything is solved with some PUA material.
All you had to say was, "I'll drive you home later." Either she buys it, and that's her excuse to stay. Or she talks herself out of it, and goes with her friends.
It ain't about ****y & funny.
I'm just trying to find out how to handle the situation better next time.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Don't say anything, just keep going. I've experienced different degrees
of LMR with every single girl I banged (it must be in their DNA). I didn't say a thing, just continue
making out, and getting your hand down there and start getting that snatch wet. Thats all.
SharinganUser
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Then you drive her home the next day. Or if you can afford it get her a cab. This isn't rocket science.Sofomore said:I'm in college, so it was my house party. There's no way either of us could have drove.
I'm just trying to find out how to handle the situation better next time.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Here's what I'm saying...Sofomore said:I'm in college, so it was my house party. There's no way either of us could have drove.
I'm just trying to find out how to handle the situation better next time.
You're trying to bang her, correct? You already have her on your bed. So you wouldn't drive WHILE drunk. You'd f**k her all night, pass out, and THEN drive her in the morning.
What did you think i was telling you to do? Kiss her more, and then drive her home in an hour? If you have a girl in your bed, I'm assuming that she's just looking for an excuse to tell her friends so they'd go away.
"Sofomore is gonna drive me home later." would be that excuse.
Have I spelled this out enough?
Seriously. What's going on with the education system?SharinganUser said:Then you drive her home the next day. Or if you can afford it get her a cab. This isn't rocket science.
Dude chill the fvck out. What is your deal? I am here looking for advice. I swear this forum is turning to sh!t because of people like you.Iceberg said:Here's what I'm saying...
You're trying to bang her, correct? You already have her on your bed. So you wouldn't drive WHILE drunk. You'd f**k her all night, pass out, and THEN drive her in the morning.
What did you think i was telling you to do? Kiss her more, and then drive her home in an hour? If you have a girl in your bed, I'm assuming that she's just looking for an excuse to tell her friends so they'd go away.
"Sofomore is gonna drive me home later." would be that excuse.
Have I spelled this out enough?
Seriously. What's going on with the education system?
No need to add your remarks about my intelligence. You're 30 years old, be mature.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
come on, pal. I'm just breaking your balls.Sofomore said:Dude chill the fvck out. What is your deal? I am here looking for advice. I swear this forum is turning to sh!t because of people like you.
No need to add your remarks about my intelligence. You're 30 years old, be mature.
If she said 'luring' in a rigid, spine becomes straight deer in headlight way...then bail...you don't want to leave yourself open to her crying rape later on when she reflects on her 'nasty' self and can't cope with it.