"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"You're Luring Me In"

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How do you respond to this last minute resistance? Making out with a girl on my bed, she says this and I didn't really know how to respond. Just kinda laughed it off.

What should I say instead?
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dont say anything it is her saying I'm comfortable with what we are doing and lets go further...this is just my opinion.
 

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Well I kept advancing, slowly pushing her buttons. Her friends were leaving (her ride), so she asked how she would get home...I said I'd find her a ride.

Hmm, every time I pulled back from advancing she would tell me her friends were waiting.

I need to either be more direct and say, no you're staying here, or be like "have a good night!"
 

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Sofomore said:
Well I kept advancing, slowly pushing her buttons. Her friends were leaving (her ride), so she asked how she would get home...I said I'd find her a ride.

Hmm, every time I pulled back from advancing she would tell me her friends were waiting.

I need to either be more direct and say, no you're staying here, or be like "have a good night!"
And you think ****y & funny would help? Not everything is solved with some PUA material.

All you had to say was, "I'll drive you home later." Either she buys it, and that's her excuse to stay. Or she talks herself out of it, and goes with her friends.

It ain't about ****y & funny.
 

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Iceberg said:
And you think ****y & funny would help? Not everything is solved with some PUA material.

All you had to say was, "I'll drive you home later." Either she buys it, and that's her excuse to stay. Or she talks herself out of it, and goes with her friends.

It ain't about ****y & funny.
I'm in college, so it was my house party. There's no way either of us could have drove.

I'm just trying to find out how to handle the situation better next time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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How to respond to LMR?

Don't say anything, just keep going. I've experienced different degrees
of LMR with every single girl I banged (it must be in their DNA). I didn't say a thing, just continue
making out, and getting your hand down there and start getting that snatch wet. Thats all.
 

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Sofomore said:
I'm in college, so it was my house party. There's no way either of us could have drove.

I'm just trying to find out how to handle the situation better next time.
Then you drive her home the next day. Or if you can afford it get her a cab. This isn't rocket science.
 

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Sofomore said:
I'm in college, so it was my house party. There's no way either of us could have drove.

I'm just trying to find out how to handle the situation better next time.
Here's what I'm saying...

You're trying to bang her, correct? You already have her on your bed. So you wouldn't drive WHILE drunk. You'd f**k her all night, pass out, and THEN drive her in the morning.

What did you think i was telling you to do? Kiss her more, and then drive her home in an hour? If you have a girl in your bed, I'm assuming that she's just looking for an excuse to tell her friends so they'd go away.

"Sofomore is gonna drive me home later." would be that excuse.

Have I spelled this out enough?

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Then you drive her home the next day. Or if you can afford it get her a cab. This isn't rocket science.
Seriously. What's going on with the education system?
 

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Iceberg said:
Here's what I'm saying...

You're trying to bang her, correct? You already have her on your bed. So you wouldn't drive WHILE drunk. You'd f**k her all night, pass out, and THEN drive her in the morning.

What did you think i was telling you to do? Kiss her more, and then drive her home in an hour? If you have a girl in your bed, I'm assuming that she's just looking for an excuse to tell her friends so they'd go away.

"Sofomore is gonna drive me home later." would be that excuse.

Have I spelled this out enough?



Seriously. What's going on with the education system?
Dude chill the fvck out. What is your deal? I am here looking for advice. I swear this forum is turning to sh!t because of people like you.

No need to add your remarks about my intelligence. You're 30 years old, be mature.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sofomore said:
Dude chill the fvck out. What is your deal? I am here looking for advice. I swear this forum is turning to sh!t because of people like you.

No need to add your remarks about my intelligence. You're 30 years old, be mature.
come on, pal. I'm just breaking your balls.
 

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My my, aren't we sensitive.
 

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Iceberg gave some good advice, in his own way! Sounds harsh but it's the obvious truth, in those situations you just keep escalating until she gives in or say NO!
 

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If she said 'luring' in a sexy, fvck me way..go for the close.

If she said 'luring' in a rigid, spine becomes straight deer in headlight way...then bail...you don't want to leave yourself open to her crying rape later on when she reflects on her 'nasty' self and can't cope with it.
 
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