"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"You're just using me for sex"

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How would you respond to a woman who says something like this to you or withdraws sex to see how you react?

I feel like I'd call it manipulative behavior and walk out, but I'm not sure that's the best approach.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Agree and amplify...

"Wow it took you this long to figure that out??? Guess I should stop taking you out places then, it might give you the wrong idea...."

Said with a sly smirk...

Never let them see you sweat
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'd just be like "So you don't like it when we have sex?"
 

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Are you though? If she's right then currently you're the one looking for a way to manipulate.
 

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"no I'm using you for your money"
 

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The most efficient response is silence followed by your disappearance. The combination of silence and creating distance amplifies attraction but more importantly invokes her imagination and guilt (for "miscategorizing your intent"), where in most instances, she will feel that she insulted you and will backpedal for forgiveness/reconciliation.

Of course, if a girl had a significant need for LTRing eventually she will break free, but I find the above gives you the longest play, and in some cases, alters her LTR need in exchange not to lose you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I once told a girl I didn't love her and only liked fùcking her. We'd only fùcked a couple times at that point.

Didn't see much more of her after that lol. She was already fùcking someone else within a day or two.
 

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Respectfully disagree.

In my opinion there's nothing manipulative about it. In fact I suspect that many women would respect a guy for being candid and owning up to his masculinity.

In the same way that women manipulate men to provide money, men manipulate women to provide sex.

I will also say, in my opinion, that the most significant relationships are fueled by such manipulations. Not always a bad thing either.
No no no, I think you misunderstood. I took his question to be an attempt at avoiding being candid and owning up to his masculinity. I meant manipulation as in hiding behind deception and making it appear as if he's not just after sex, even if that's really all. Thus me asking him if her suspicion is true and pointing out that he's the one looking to manipulate if that's the case.

In social context the word "manipulate" is defined as "controling or influencing (a person or situation) cleverly or unscrupulously", often using deception to serve one's own desires with little to no consideration for the other person. Certainly not something a candid guy would do often.
 

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How would you respond to a woman who says something like this to you or withdraws sex to see how you react?

I feel like I'd call it manipulative behavior and walk out, but I'm not sure that's the best approach.
This accusation has been thrown at me multiple times.

And I've always responded to this day, that s€x for me is simply my way to communicate my desire, love, deep connection with the woman whom I have intense feelings for.

Hope this helps.
 
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