You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Defending a convicted sex offender is not good.He did nothing wrong.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I am defending a man. He didn't do any sex offenses.Defending a convicted sex offender is not good.
I think it's ignorant to assume that. There's been in the past suicide from actors and actresses highlighting sexual abuse in the industry as their motivation.I’m not sure where I stand. Those actresses would have been enthusiastically going directly to the directors D to get the role. I’m not sure how much of it is him working it, those women are power mad narcissists. Amber Heard types and I expect even if he hadnt offered they would have been actively trying to sleep with directors to try to get their chance of stardom. In the same way a lot of these Hollywood/glam women are desperate to sleep with any billionaire or high status man they can at any cost
Clearly could have done more research then.I didn’t know this, I’ve seen workplaces where several women were mad keen on sleeping with the boss. Seems power is the ultimate aphrodisiac so it logically follows actresses would follow that pattern with directors.
They all come out after they get the roles and millions of dollars don’t they? I’ve not heard of many taking a stand and turning it down.
I’ve not read up into Weinstein but it seems more “I slept with the director and got myself a very lucrative job as a result but now I have the money and fame it’s abuse”
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.