"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I would also recommend getting your hair cut on a regular basis. Letting your hair grow too long may make you look unkempt. Whatever your hair style is, it should be trim and neat.
I don't know many women that like men with beards or mustahce. I think they prefer the clean look.
Dressing well is also another thing women seem to notice. I often hear them comment on how guys don't know how to dress. I have to agree with them.
Overall, take care of your appearance as best as possible. Don't worry too much about your appearance though. Women place less importance on them than we do, although it doesn't hurt to look your best.
Keep in mind to have good posture. Head up, back straight, shoulders back, etc. The majority of the guys seem clueless about the message poor posture can send. It can make someone look weak or insecure. Practice good posture untill it becomes a part of you.
I think these are some of the "little things ladies notice about guys" and also some of the things guys don't know and/or don't care about.
Hope this helps.
"What does nice shoes have to do with a guy being alright?" I thought to myself.
Anyhow, an overall Neat and clean appearance is necessary.
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Thanks Jackal. It's the real story. My everyday dealings with women. I'm really glad you are enjoying it.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Ralfus
Master Don Juan
Also don't stink!
And make sure your belt and shoe colors match. That is a big one with chicks.
Ralfus
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Our homeec teacher used to tell us that a way she had been taught to find the leader in a conference or seminar was to look for the guy with the cleanest shoes.
I guess women have a tendency to relate appearance to hirearchial status: they figure more is demanded from a guy who's in a higher position and therefore he has to dress better.
Patroclus82
Master Don Juan
Anyway, quite a few women comment on how my top buton on my shirt is always done up..
Strange but true..
So I always come back at them with some witty response..
Laters
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Absolute Intrigue.
whether they have a kissable mouth (clean, softlips, white teeth, clean shaven)
whether they keep the hair on the back of their neck just below their main hairline, shaved. When that starts growing out and looking scruffy it's a turn off.
whether they trim their toe and fingernails. Men should NOT have any 'whites' of their nails showing. That is sooo gross.
whether they have nice hands (soft and not flakey, big, strong looking, clean finger nails).
sometimes from certain angles i get a look at inside a guy's ears, and boy is it gross when I see earwax in there!
...that's all i can think of.
Sara http://www.getromantic.com
Thanks Patroclus82. It has been a 5 month adventure--all chronicled. I am glad that you are reading my diary and have been inspired to start your own. Good luck.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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A side note, i put carmex on my lips when i go out to give my lips that ultra kissable look. I even bring it to clubs and reapply it once or twice.
The kissable mouth things is big for girls from what i have heard.
and yes, grooming is soo important. I did a survey for a sociology course essay I was doing on interpersonal attraction and found that good hygiene was the # 1 quality women looked for in men. (that was from my list that included other things like personality, physical attractiveness, sense of humour, etc.)
and kissable lips are a must. they have to be soft, the teeth have to be clean, etc.
Ralfus
Master Don Juan
Ralfus
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DJ de Florida
Master Don Juan
I have heard other women discuss how they get turned on by a man's big, strong hands. Some have even said they like them a bit rough (I guess it indicates a rougher side).
Since I try to play guitar, I keep my nails longer on one hand. Hope the chicks don't get the wrong impression....
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Just Do It!
1) Progress always involves risk: you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first.
2) Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.
3) You never really lose until you stop trying.
marknola
Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The Cynical Man
Don Juan
But, while I agree that alotta women judge a guy based upon his clothes, beware these types cuz they judge you before they know you. Provided you keep yourself well-groomed, what kinda clothes you wear (as long as they are in good shape) really doesn't matter, does it?
Actually, the kind of shoes or clothes a guy wears is indicative of how much money he makes. So watch out for gold-digging skanks! She should only judge you realistically once she gets to know you.
Any woman that judges me by my shoes or whatever clothes I wear can kiss my a$$.
Find a woman that judges you fairly - everybody else is a waste of your time.
maranathaman
Master Don Juan
I had a lady say she liked my smile, so I asked her out and we had a nice time!
~Andy
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“Patience is a virtue I do not have time for.”
Back on subject, seems like everone around here agrees that nice shoes are key. Ralfus, I remember posting about the importance of nice shoes as well....I guess we get no respect around here.
Shoes, fingernails, and overall hygiene. It matters less how you look than it does how you care for yourself.
