"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your opinions on...........
- Thread starter DJRAZR
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I would also recommend getting your hair cut on a regular basis. Letting your hair grow too long may make you look unkempt. Whatever your hair style is, it should be trim and neat.
I don't know many women that like men with beards or mustahce. I think they prefer the clean look.
Dressing well is also another thing women seem to notice. I often hear them comment on how guys don't know how to dress. I have to agree with them.
Overall, take care of your appearance as best as possible. Don't worry too much about your appearance though. Women place less importance on them than we do, although it doesn't hurt to look your best.
Keep in mind to have good posture. Head up, back straight, shoulders back, etc. The majority of the guys seem clueless about the message poor posture can send. It can make someone look weak or insecure. Practice good posture untill it becomes a part of you.
I think these are some of the "little things ladies notice about guys" and also some of the things guys don't know and/or don't care about.
Hope this helps.
"What does nice shoes have to do with a guy being alright?" I thought to myself.
Anyhow, an overall Neat and clean appearance is necessary.
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Thanks Jackal. It's the real story. My everyday dealings with women. I'm really glad you are enjoying it.
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Ralfus
Master Don Juan
Also don't stink!
And make sure your belt and shoe colors match. That is a big one with chicks.
Ralfus
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Our homeec teacher used to tell us that a way she had been taught to find the leader in a conference or seminar was to look for the guy with the cleanest shoes.
I guess women have a tendency to relate appearance to hirearchial status: they figure more is demanded from a guy who's in a higher position and therefore he has to dress better.
Patroclus82
Master Don Juan
Anyway, quite a few women comment on how my top buton on my shirt is always done up..
Strange but true..
So I always come back at them with some witty response..
Laters
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Absolute Intrigue.
whether they have a kissable mouth (clean, softlips, white teeth, clean shaven)
whether they keep the hair on the back of their neck just below their main hairline, shaved. When that starts growing out and looking scruffy it's a turn off.
whether they trim their toe and fingernails. Men should NOT have any 'whites' of their nails showing. That is sooo gross.
whether they have nice hands (soft and not flakey, big, strong looking, clean finger nails).
sometimes from certain angles i get a look at inside a guy's ears, and boy is it gross when I see earwax in there!
...that's all i can think of.
Sara http://www.getromantic.com
Thanks Patroclus82. It has been a 5 month adventure--all chronicled. I am glad that you are reading my diary and have been inspired to start your own. Good luck.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
NEANDERTHAL SUPERSOLDIER
Banned
A side note, i put carmex on my lips when i go out to give my lips that ultra kissable look. I even bring it to clubs and reapply it once or twice.
The kissable mouth things is big for girls from what i have heard.
and yes, grooming is soo important. I did a survey for a sociology course essay I was doing on interpersonal attraction and found that good hygiene was the # 1 quality women looked for in men. (that was from my list that included other things like personality, physical attractiveness, sense of humour, etc.)
and kissable lips are a must. they have to be soft, the teeth have to be clean, etc.
Ralfus
Master Don Juan
Ralfus
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DJ de Florida
Master Don Juan
I have heard other women discuss how they get turned on by a man's big, strong hands. Some have even said they like them a bit rough (I guess it indicates a rougher side).
Since I try to play guitar, I keep my nails longer on one hand. Hope the chicks don't get the wrong impression....
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Just Do It!
1) Progress always involves risk: you can't steal second base and keep your foot on first.
2) Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow.
3) You never really lose until you stop trying.
marknola
Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
The Cynical Man
Don Juan
But, while I agree that alotta women judge a guy based upon his clothes, beware these types cuz they judge you before they know you. Provided you keep yourself well-groomed, what kinda clothes you wear (as long as they are in good shape) really doesn't matter, does it?
Actually, the kind of shoes or clothes a guy wears is indicative of how much money he makes. So watch out for gold-digging skanks! She should only judge you realistically once she gets to know you.
Any woman that judges me by my shoes or whatever clothes I wear can kiss my a$$.
Find a woman that judges you fairly - everybody else is a waste of your time.
maranathaman
Master Don Juan
I had a lady say she liked my smile, so I asked her out and we had a nice time!
~Andy
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“Patience is a virtue I do not have time for.”
Back on subject, seems like everone around here agrees that nice shoes are key. Ralfus, I remember posting about the importance of nice shoes as well....I guess we get no respect around here.
Shoes, fingernails, and overall hygiene. It matters less how you look than it does how you care for yourself.
