"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your opinion on "good girls"?

Effington

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I have a date with a hottie I met at the gym, and she's a total good girl. In her mid 20's, lived with her parents her entire life; went to a local college, and now works in same city. Most of her weekend stories consist of family nights.

Is this good or bad?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What are you looking for with this chick?

A fling, a one night stand, a LTR??

What exactly?

If its a fling or one night stand good stuff, no problems to be had there.

If you are looking for an LTR though and this girl is fairly young without a lot of experience and you get the LTR going anyway, over time she could begin to wonder what she's been missing out on. In essence you will be giving her a taste of things to come and come some more heh heh.

So a fun fling or one night stand is the best course of action to take with a chick who doesn't have a lot of experience under her belt while going for an LTR with a young inexperienced chick is a huge risk for you emotionally as you are not setting yourself up for the best chance at success since going for a chick like this who hasn't experienced life is likely really not ready to settle down at this point with one guy permaneantly.

She could be the exception to the rule and you two could have a wonderful relationship with eachother together forever but then again I could win the lottery tomorrow but thats not likely to happen either.

So the answer to your question is dependent on what you are looking for with this chick.
 

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It's OK to go for this but have other plates going. I have a 19 yo plate who's a virgin, not giving it up easy to ANYONE. She's really nice and we get along and all, but no way would I get too involved emotionally as the risk is too high with girls this young.
 

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I don't know her that well so don't know what I'm looking for yet. On the age thing, she's like 26...that's young for a relationship? I don't really know how much experience she's had, honestly. It'd be hard to believe a girl as hot as she is has been single her entire life. She just gives off the impression of the homebody.

I would think a college grad with a career may be looking for the next step, but like I said, I don't know her that well.
 

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Well I don't want to stereotype all girls at this age who are inexperienced, and I might have a totally different personality than you. But I generally find girls like that boring and not very interesting. But then again my lifestyle generally is very active and independent of family for the most part. Even my family member are active and can party it up from time to time more than most other families so so me the so called "small town girl" or "good girl" generally seems boring to me.

Now then again you could have a totally different personality than me, or you could have struck a gold mine with a girl who is still a "good girl" and is also very interesting. I do agree with the other people who have already replied that you are also taking a risk because this girl is young and hasn't experienced life to the fullest and therefore could suddenly change all of sudden and leave you in the dust.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Effington said:
I have a date with a hottie I met at the gym, and she's a total good girl. In her mid 20's, lived with her parents her entire life; went to a local college, and now works in same city. Most of her weekend stories consist of family nights.

Is this good or bad?
One word...

marriage?

this type of girl is the type you want to have your babies...

thats what I'm pushing you on.
 

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Effington said:
I have a date with a hottie I met at the gym, and she's a total good girl. In her mid 20's, lived with her parents her entire life; went to a local college, and now works in same city. Most of her weekend stories consist of family nights.

Is this good or bad?

She may think you are not good for her either, since you don't live at home and haven't going to a local college and have weekend family nights.
 
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