"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your opinion on being persistent / desperate
- Thread starter verysuave
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Organized Confusion
Don Juan
Just dont take disrespect from them.
Presistent is when you go after a girl, but it's not so much of a lost case, and you just go for the heck of it, maybe because you suspect that she may give in, and SCORE!! :cheer: But you just go for the fun, and you don't really care if she rejects you or something, because you have a million other chicks, or some other reason. Presistence is a good quality, I think, confident people are presistent.
And in the first scenario it means that the case is lost, and generally the girl has her opinion made up, she does not want you. In the second scenario presistency is good, it can make her change her mind, because the girl is like 50/50.
I hope I made my point, if some enlighted one has a different opinion, shoot!
right, if you spinning plays, theres no need to be EVEN persistent, correct?Organized Confusion said:I dont see how it matters. If you spin some plates, where's the problem?
Just dont take disrespect from them.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Organized Confusion
Don Juan
no, not correct. In fact, that's called being a *****. So is nexting. Your nexting because you dont have what it takes to get that woman. So, being persistent is GOOD, as long as your doing other things, not chasing her around, and accept all her invites, etc.verysuave said:right, if you spinning plays, theres no need to be EVEN persistent, correct?
Make her miss you. Give her something good, then take it away.
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Master Don Juan
Being desperate is chasing the girl when u have no chance with her and shes obviously not interested at all.
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
Everything I do could be considered creepy because I escalate HARDCORE...I go for the makeout 1min in...the reason why is because in my mind I'm always offering value...
When I keep calling chicks and texting, I'm just offering value...if they don't come out, o well...I have abundance mentality...I remember escalating with a chick who just was talking about how she hates strangers just grabbing her up...which ironically I was doing that but she didn't comment about it and actually enjoyed it...hahaha...
If you think something is creepy or desperate then of course it will come off that way...or if your reactive and living in her reality then however she frames that stuff will be desperate and creepy.
I try for the makeout 2-5 times...heck even an instructor plowed for 6 hours until the set hooked...it all starts from you reality..