"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Your favorite way to meet girls?

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What's your favorite / best way to bring new women into your life?

I'm talking hobbies/social events/charities.

I work weekends so can't do the whole pub/club scene.

Have above average social skills, above average looks & really tall (6ft7). 23 years old.

Run my own business & have ignored this part of my life since finishing college. Far too focused on work, my game has suffered because of it. Only ever hooked up with girls in college dorms (super easy).

Social group pickings from college isnt an option as I've moved cities.

What's a good place to start for 'beginners'?

Yoga classes?

Joining mixed sports teams?

Day-gaming?

I'm assuming day game/cold approaching is the best way to consistently meet new women. Don't know anyone that does it though (not that that should deter me).

Thoughts?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Grocery / Department stores.... I like to window shop, to get the blood flowing. Dead easy, to meet girls.
 

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Definitely approaching, though I prefer a warmer approach of already knowing she's put herself out there. Women put themselves in situations to be approached subconsciously sometimes, so you have to look out for those.

I'm fine with cold approaches too.

OLD is always an option, but it's not as fun and results vary wildly.
 

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Fvck grocery stores. That's what every dude says.

I go to farmer's markets.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Definitely approaching, though I prefer a warmer approach of already knowing she's put herself out there. Women put themselves in situations to be approached subconsciously sometimes, so you have to look out for those.

I'm fine with cold approaches too.

OLD is always an option, but it's not as fun and results vary wildly.
OLD? Also, how can you tell she's already put herself out there?
 

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OLD? Also, how can you tell she's already put herself out there?
Just imagine how a person would behave to increase their odds of someone wanting to approach them. Then imagine how a person would behave if all they want is to go from A to B uninterrupted or do whatever they are out in public to do.

There's a pretty sharp contrast. If you cannot see this contrast then I can't help you much, it comes from practical experience and observation that a forum posts cannot provide. Also it's not an exact science, It's more of a gut feeling.
 

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As long as I am in Albania, I have to resort to mostly online dating or at least online initiating because I have no problem at all taking the girls out for a walk/drink or in my case, shoot some pics (always a good icebreaker). I also like starting it online because I can quickly smell if they my type of girl or not and if she's not, I can next with lightning speed without having to spend time or money or anything else on her.

On the other hand, I would like to approach them in the streets as well, but there is wayyyy too much ****blocking in Albania. 70% Muslim country with people who stare at you while you're eating in a restaurant, let alone if you're trynna approach a girl.
 

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I must be the ugliest bastard in the world. Apart from in social Circle I've never had a girl make it obvious. And I've approach them and going out on dates anyway so I wouldn't bother waiting around for the mysterious green light of love to start blinking.

And social Circle sometimes that made it so obvious it's been funny. There was this girl I knew at the tennis club we arrange the game and both turned up without racquets
 

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Online dating.
Also, how can you tell she's already put herself out there?
This:
Just imagine how a person would behave to increase their odds of someone wanting to approach them. Then imagine how a person would behave if all they want is to go from A to B uninterrupted or do whatever they are out in public to do.

There's a pretty sharp contrast. If you cannot see this contrast then I can't help you much, it comes from practical experience and observation that a forum posts cannot provide. Also it's not an exact science, It's more of a gut feeling.
Couldn't have said it better.

And yeah @ubercat, I'd assume you'll need to be good-looking for women to do this :D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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