Your career will impact your life in a way you won't even imagine

[jhonny9546]

Do we know what success mean today?
Not so much how much you earn, or how many resources you have... but rather what kind of career you have... who you are..

Do you know why?
People's respect is automatically correlated with the type of position you do have.

Yes, you can be an entertainer at the beach who screws 50 women a year, or a lawyer who's been in a stable marriage for 20 years and has a high-level reputation.

How many times have you seen this, guys?
Doctors, lawyers, officers, soldiers, highly skilled men are the ones who are most respected.
They far surpass singers, soccer players, actors, and many other public figures.
It's the skills and the degree to which they impact people.

Imagine walking into a room and in one scenario you're the attractive entertainer, with all eyes on you; in the other scenario, you'll be the doctor, still attractive, and even if no eyes are on you, you'll be respected, the most important person in the room.


I began to understand that in life, after your health, respec for who you are, is much more important than everything else, such as money, women, possessions, etc; it has a truly greater impact, like a compund interest, on your life.
After 30 years, people will remember who you are, you'll exchange favors for life, they'll be "afraid" to do something to you, out of admiration and respect.
So you could be a short and bald skinny guy, but since you're the lawyer, people have that "fear" of you.
You don't have that even if you have 10 women in your rotation by being the fitness trainer.

For this reason, after understanding how the game works, the female world, male nature, the dynamics of reproduction, modern relationships, the economy, hierarchies, there's nothing better than learning that since we are men, not women, we must do everything: compete and simultaneously help others, and strive every day to develop skills, solve problems, but above all, stay at the top of the hierarchy with competence!

I've known entrepreneurs who didn't know how to use the same software their employees used to generate profits for their company. It's like saying a pilot doesn't know how a plane works.

I know, it may sound strange, but listen: we're not just fake people who want the title, because we also know that without the inner game, we could just be respected "figures," but not "competent." Think about being "titled" but also "competent."
That is what we're looking for.
Honest, competent, high position in the pyramid.

You can have all the money in the world, my friend, but if you don't earn the respect of others through your profession, if you don't help others with their problems, and if others don't recognize you in a high-ranking position, then your value is nothing.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

I agree, though i think it's a bit more nuanced. Careers/professions are superficial level ways of achieving -- or providing the illusion --of competence and status. The problem is the correlation here is almost meaningless in this day and age. We've all seen plenty of credentialed, educated, esteemed "experts" who have absolutely nothing useful to say. They're only fooling fools.

The actual qualities you are describing boil down to competency, aptitude, skills, etc, especially ones that are marketable and extremely pragmatic and useful for securing resources and wealth. A self-made man may have competencies in web design and software development and use it for self-employment but to the laymen he may appear completely ordinary or even useless because he may lack any outward signs of competency. There are many skills to possess and society seems to value some over others and this is made clear by the fact that certain professions are regarded as more esteemed than others, even though some are objectively more useful.

Again, as an example, a software developer/programmer who dresses like a slob is 100x more deadly than an MBA who has an oxford shirt with a collar that's a different color than the rest of the shirt, but to the rest of society the latter is always viewed as more competent and esteemed even though there's a good chance he has no useful knowledge or experience to share with the world.

So I say all this to say, careers/professions are just a way to give the appearance of competency. It does not necessarily imply it. But if your goal is to just impress the NPCs, then sure, it matters. But all know what really matters; developing useful skills across different domains that will serve you in the long run.

On a more practical and actionable level, I actually think that the way you dress is the best and most direct way to gain prestige. I remember briefly working at a law firm as a paralegal in my mid 20s, and I would dress very sharp every day. The difference in how people treated me was staggering (and this was in spite of the fact that I was a bit fat at the time due to gaining almost 50 lbs in recklessly idiotic dirty bulk). They assumed I was some hard-working professional who makes good money, when in fact I was a borderline degenerate who was only making about $35k a year. People are very easily misled by appearances, and while there is a superficial element I do think that appearance matters in a very real sense because at the very least it does signal your intentions to others. This is one of the very few instances where the fake it till strategy can actually work - the way you dress really truly matters if you are concerned with commanding respect from others.

I also think having clear goals and purpose goes a long way too. You can be unemployed and broke but if you have a vision and you are actively and passionately pursuing a higher goal that will shine through your behavior and people will see it. There are plenty of people who have high profile careers who are dead inside because they do not have a greater purpose or satisfying fulfillment in their life.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

People who base their whole identity on their career often fall into this trap.

Personally, IDGAF what someone thinks about my career or me in general.

That's the best thing about being from NY.

We just don't give a fvck.

 

[plumber]

spend a few moments to study how Master Yoda and Mr. Miyagi would consider what you have said.

 

[BadBoy89]

You can have all the money in the world, my friend, but if you don't earn the respect of others through your profession, if you don't help others with their problems, and if others don't recognize you in a high-ranking position, then your value is nothing.

So I base my self worth on what others think of me?

Rock on!

 

[ManFromTartarus]

if others don't recognize you in a high-ranking position, then your value is nothing.

Dumbest thing I've ever read on this forum.
The entire OP reeks of craving outside validation while having no confidence of your own self worth regardless of your occupation.

 

[Gamisch]

Dumbest thing I've ever read on this forum.
The entire OP reeks of craving outside validation while having no confidence of your own self worth regardless of your occupation.

This 100.

Any man who uses his job to get and keep women will learn a harsh lesson.

This is what I mean when I say the depth is shockingly steep nowadays. After years off analysing why the status quo things as job, money and even parenthood won't keep a woman we've made a full circle and just fall back onto beta simp knee jerk instincts.

Yes a job title might get you a woman , but it definitely won't keep her.

 

[Mike32ct]

I might be asked what I do for work if I chatting with a chick on an OLD app.

But when I’m talking to people in real life, it never comes up.

 

[characternote]

Just tell people you are a Doctor if you care about that sort of thing

edit: This actually reminds me of a pull I had quite a few years back. I'm someone who's never cared about having some 'high status' job or whatever, and in my experience girls never care either if it's for a hook up/one night stand, which is always my goal on a night out.

i.e if they think you are hot, you can tell them you're broke and have never had a job, and still get the lay. That's always been my experience (although popular culture tells me it's maybe slightly different in the US). Like the housewife cheating on her CEO husband with the hot young pool boy lol

Except with this one girl who I could tell was all about status. Kept talking about her high powered job etc, and I could tell that she was a very rare kind of girl (at least in terms of girls I meet) who actually cared about that stuff even for a onenight stand to the point that I knew the truth wouldn't cut it on this instance and would result in me getting rejected, so I simply stole my best friends (very well paid dude with a great job) whole resume as my own. I know his life very well since we're close, so I literally just told her a load of rubbish, using his job title and experience/stories and qualifications etc etc as my own when she was asking me stuff about work etc. She was visibly impresed. Got the lay! Got out of there!

 

[zekko]

Doctors, lawyers, officers, soldiers, highly skilled men are the ones who are most respected.
They far surpass singers, soccer players, actors, and many other public figures.

I'm going to disagree with this bit here. Fame trumps all. Of course, you can be a low level soccer player or actor, but if you are a famous one, nothing beats that in our culture.

Anyway, I agree that men especially often take their identity from their work, at least in part. When I retired, I noticed my sense of self identity had changed, because I couldn't identify with my work anymore. It was a bit of an adjustment, but one I happily made.

 

[Roober]

Are you AI or spam bot? The amount of threads you created in every forum is insane...