"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Your breaking point in One-Itis

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What was you breaking point in one-itis, when you knew that you had to let go the girl and move on?..
when you hit rock bottom, and the only way was up???..





No Fears. No Distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter, truly slide.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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When I found out she was dating other guys only 2 weeks after we stopped...b!tch.
 

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When I found this site, discovered what one-itis is, and realized that I was essentially "tricking" myself into being miserable over this girl.
 

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Sean O said:
When I found this site, discovered what one-itis is, and realized that I was essentially "tricking" myself into being miserable over this girl.
Fabulous response, Sean. Remember you're the one who creates one-it-is. You make her think she the one and only one and there is no one better than her. By so doing, you're transmitting your power to her. She gets to treat you anyhow she desires because she knows she is the oneitis.
 

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Finding this site, was kind of a thing .. as waking up that you had it. But the one-itis didn't go away.

I think it just takes time, which also helped me a lot is that see know that i'm not the only one with it.

Anyone, i think you could use this one-itis to your advantage.. kind of a motivational thing. But the first thing you must do is, GIVE ALL YOUR EXPECTATIONS UP and DON'T BE OVER-ANALYZING THE WHOLE SITUATION!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I basically wrote down all the bad sh1t she used me for, kept it in my pocket everyday for two weeks and I'd read it like, every few hours because it would come out everytime i'd buy lunch or get my keys outta my pocket. Slowly I stopped seeing her as something/someone desirable and that was the end.d
 

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Potbelly said:
I basically wrote down all the bad sh1t she used me for, kept it in my pocket everyday for two weeks and I'd read it like, every few hours because it would come out everytime i'd buy lunch or get my keys outta my pocket. Slowly I stopped seeing her as something/someone desirable and that was the end.d

yeah that is a good way. I need to do that.

I got over my oneites by realizing that my ex will be retarded mentally in the future and have depressions because of all the drugs she did the past 2 years every ****in day. I won't even be able to have healthy kids with her polluted ass. She is a model so its almost impossible to let go.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Just say "no" to one-itis, period.
 

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By going out and realizing there's so many other hot girls out there. You realize that your one-nitis is self-manifested. Not hanging out with her also helps, and thinking about how if she really was so special, why she didn't put in the effort.
 
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I was lucky because my one-itis was an easy b!tch and I found out :cool: :moon: . All feelings went away in a few hours.

Dunno what I would do if she was actually a nice girl though
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Rebound Material

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Sean O said:
When I found this site, discovered what one-itis is, and realized that I was essentially "tricking" myself into being miserable over this girl.
funny how learning the truth from this site makes you realize that half the battle is in your head and created in your head right?
 
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