"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Your breaking point in One-Itis

Faca

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What was you breaking point in one-itis, when you knew that you had to let go the girl and move on?..
when you hit rock bottom, and the only way was up???..





No Fears. No Distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter, truly slide.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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T Money

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When I found out she was dating other guys only 2 weeks after we stopped...b!tch.
 

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When I found this site, discovered what one-itis is, and realized that I was essentially "tricking" myself into being miserable over this girl.
 

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Sean O said:
When I found this site, discovered what one-itis is, and realized that I was essentially "tricking" myself into being miserable over this girl.
Fabulous response, Sean. Remember you're the one who creates one-it-is. You make her think she the one and only one and there is no one better than her. By so doing, you're transmitting your power to her. She gets to treat you anyhow she desires because she knows she is the oneitis.
 

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Finding this site, was kind of a thing .. as waking up that you had it. But the one-itis didn't go away.

I think it just takes time, which also helped me a lot is that see know that i'm not the only one with it.

Anyone, i think you could use this one-itis to your advantage.. kind of a motivational thing. But the first thing you must do is, GIVE ALL YOUR EXPECTATIONS UP and DON'T BE OVER-ANALYZING THE WHOLE SITUATION!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I basically wrote down all the bad sh1t she used me for, kept it in my pocket everyday for two weeks and I'd read it like, every few hours because it would come out everytime i'd buy lunch or get my keys outta my pocket. Slowly I stopped seeing her as something/someone desirable and that was the end.d
 

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Potbelly said:
I basically wrote down all the bad sh1t she used me for, kept it in my pocket everyday for two weeks and I'd read it like, every few hours because it would come out everytime i'd buy lunch or get my keys outta my pocket. Slowly I stopped seeing her as something/someone desirable and that was the end.d

yeah that is a good way. I need to do that.

I got over my oneites by realizing that my ex will be retarded mentally in the future and have depressions because of all the drugs she did the past 2 years every ****in day. I won't even be able to have healthy kids with her polluted ass. She is a model so its almost impossible to let go.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Just say "no" to one-itis, period.
 

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By going out and realizing there's so many other hot girls out there. You realize that your one-nitis is self-manifested. Not hanging out with her also helps, and thinking about how if she really was so special, why she didn't put in the effort.
 
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I was lucky because my one-itis was an easy b!tch and I found out :cool: :moon: . All feelings went away in a few hours.

Dunno what I would do if she was actually a nice girl though
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Rebound Material

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Sean O said:
When I found this site, discovered what one-itis is, and realized that I was essentially "tricking" myself into being miserable over this girl.
funny how learning the truth from this site makes you realize that half the battle is in your head and created in your head right?
 
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