"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Your body language shapes who you are

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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VladPatton

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Phenomenal post, man. I totally agree with what she said 10000%. Thanks for posting.
 

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I love Ted Talk shows! I'm gonna check this out. Thanks!
 

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The correlation between high testosterone and low cortisol, its corresponding effects of alpha body language with your mood, dovetails with scientific studies reviewed on Roissy’s blog. Guys on here can complain all they want how the alpha/beta dichotomous spectrum is a silly word with ambiguous definition, there is no denying the dynamics. Body language is one of the hardest habits to change because relapse is all too easy, but the results are great.

The girl was cute, too.
 

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Studies show that constant masturbation rises cortisol so we can assume that it lowers testosterone as well.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SeymourCake said:
Studies show that constant masturbation rises cortisol so we can assume that it lowers testosterone as well.
"Edging" actually raises testosterone. Significantly. Its ejaculation which leads to lower testosterone.
 

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Wow... That was really powerful when she shared her personal story.

I'm definitely going to try forcing myself into more confident postures even when I'm not feeling it...Only doing it for two minutes with such significant findings is compelling.
 
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Wow... That was really powerful when she shared her personal story.

I'm usually unemotional, but that part got to me.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I agree body language has to do with a lot when it comes to being popular. If your upbeat, excited, energetic constantly. This causes a following. People love to be around others that are happy. It makes them feel comfortable and so they can lower there shield and get to know others easier. I suffer and am suffering through that negative body language. Especially those screenshots when she showed the body language of how the lower confident people sat in the chairs lol
 

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learning about body language is cool mainly because it has you focusing on others as you take interst in what you're learning, maybe guessing how they are feeling or whatever.

imo, the best thing about this is it gets you out of your own head, your anxiety, sadness, shyness, sadness or whatever.. and puts the focus on the other person, where it should be. It really does help you get better in tune with others and makes you feel empowered.
 

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Great post. I was always skeptical about "fake it 'till you make it" or "keep doing it until it becomes congruent" advice from PUAs.

Now that someone with credibility and solid credentials says it, I feel much better about it. I don't doubt it anymore.

I was always troubled by the "feeling like a fraud" thing she mentioned if I tried something that " wasn't me." From this video, I learned that its ok to go through that phase.
 
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