"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Your body language shapes who you are

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Phenomenal post, man. I totally agree with what she said 10000%. Thanks for posting.
 

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I love Ted Talk shows! I'm gonna check this out. Thanks!
 

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The correlation between high testosterone and low cortisol, its corresponding effects of alpha body language with your mood, dovetails with scientific studies reviewed on Roissy’s blog. Guys on here can complain all they want how the alpha/beta dichotomous spectrum is a silly word with ambiguous definition, there is no denying the dynamics. Body language is one of the hardest habits to change because relapse is all too easy, but the results are great.

The girl was cute, too.
 

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Studies show that constant masturbation rises cortisol so we can assume that it lowers testosterone as well.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SeymourCake said:
Studies show that constant masturbation rises cortisol so we can assume that it lowers testosterone as well.
"Edging" actually raises testosterone. Significantly. Its ejaculation which leads to lower testosterone.
 

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Wow... That was really powerful when she shared her personal story.

I'm definitely going to try forcing myself into more confident postures even when I'm not feeling it...Only doing it for two minutes with such significant findings is compelling.
 
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Wow... That was really powerful when she shared her personal story.

I'm usually unemotional, but that part got to me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree body language has to do with a lot when it comes to being popular. If your upbeat, excited, energetic constantly. This causes a following. People love to be around others that are happy. It makes them feel comfortable and so they can lower there shield and get to know others easier. I suffer and am suffering through that negative body language. Especially those screenshots when she showed the body language of how the lower confident people sat in the chairs lol
 

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learning about body language is cool mainly because it has you focusing on others as you take interst in what you're learning, maybe guessing how they are feeling or whatever.

imo, the best thing about this is it gets you out of your own head, your anxiety, sadness, shyness, sadness or whatever.. and puts the focus on the other person, where it should be. It really does help you get better in tune with others and makes you feel empowered.
 

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Great post. I was always skeptical about "fake it 'till you make it" or "keep doing it until it becomes congruent" advice from PUAs.

Now that someone with credibility and solid credentials says it, I feel much better about it. I don't doubt it anymore.

I was always troubled by the "feeling like a fraud" thing she mentioned if I tried something that " wasn't me." From this video, I learned that its ok to go through that phase.
 
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