Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Mauser96 has been posting some Corey Wayne videos lately, so I've been watching a few of them. He says that opening with a compliment makes a big impact on a girl, because most guys don't have the nerve to come up and say something like that to a girl.way2smart said:I would advice against opening a conversation with a complement.
Never complement a girl if you want to seduce her.
It kills all the attraction and just makes you look AFC.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I have seen several videos of Corey Wayne, and I don't agree nor like some of the stuff he teaches.zekko said:Mauser96 has been posting some Corey Wayne videos lately, so I've been watching a few of them. He says that opening with a compliment makes a big impact on a girl, because most guys don't have the nerve to come up and say something like that to a girl.
I'm not saying that's true, but that's what Corey Wayne says. I've never been one to give a lot of compliments, but maybe that's a mistake.
way2smart said:I would advice against opening a conversation with a complement.
Never complement a girl if you want to seduce her.
It kills all the attraction and just makes you look AFC.
Instead you need to be polite and start a convo with something completely different. Then her hamster will start spinning and she will start doubting herself and asking questions like "Does he like me?" ,
"Am I pretty?" , "Why doesn't he complement me?"
That's how you build attraction.
zekko said:He says that opening with a compliment makes a big impact on a girl, because most guys don't have the nerve to come up and say something like that to a girl.
[...]I've never been one to give a lot of compliments, but maybe that's a mistake.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I know what you're saying, and I agree. But I don't think he means he is going to be sitting around waiting for her, he is going to be going out and getting other women.way2smart said:Any girl who hears "Let me know if you change your mind" will always think that you will always be there for her like a puppy and rightfully so. You don't want the girl to think that she can have you any time she wants. Women hate men who are too available and whom they can have any time they want.
Yeah, I don't agree with Corey Wayne when he says only the "top 3%" of guys have the nerve to compliment girls. I agree with you, the most beautiful women hear it all the time, but it might have a stronger effect on more average girls, because they aren't quite so jaded.devilkingx2 said:hot girls get complimented all the time, they're used to it and it probably doesn't mean much to them. meanwhile average girls aren't used to constantly being hit on and complimented so compliments have stronger effects
i'm pretty sure it's more like, only the bottom 3% of guys lack the courage to compliment a pretty girl when they see one.zekko said:Yeah, I don't agree with Corey Wayne when he says only the "top 3%" of guys have the nerve to compliment girls. I agree with you, the most beautiful women hear it all the time, but it might have a stronger effect on more average girls, because they aren't quite so jaded.