"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

Your best lines for rejecting/dumping women

Jariel

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 17, 2004
Messages
4,413
Reaction score
297
Location
UK
As you head towards DJ enlightenment I'm sure many of you are discovering a lot of girls getting attached or even falling for you. I've been playing the field a lot lately and enjoying dates and sex, but in most cases would just like to walk away and appreciate each experience for what it was.

How do you reject girls, discourage those who are too push or let them down gently? I'd really like to hear your reasons and excuses. Here are some of mine...



* I still have feelings for my ex. I thought I was ready to move on, but it's still too soon.

* I feel we are very different people and I can't see it working between us in the long term.

* I'm too busy to handle a relationship at the moment. I've got too much going on in my life.

* I have feelings for a close friend and need to get my head straight before I can move on.

* I cut/reduce contact until they take the hint.

* I get the feeling you want something different/you want kids and I don't/you want marriage and I don't etc.


Any others you can think of? These seem effective for rejecting girls who want relationships, but not so effective for girls who want to meet again casually.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

TheMale

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Mar 25, 2011
Messages
427
Reaction score
18
why youre not assuming your decision ??

* I still have feelings for my ex. I thought I was ready to move on, but it's still too soon.
* I'm too busy to handle a relationship at the moment. I've got too much going on in my life.
* I have feelings for a close friend and need to get my head straight before I can move on.
for my part i think its lame to say that
you dont want her tell her (the rest of your example is good but what ive put on the quote its lame)
 

horaholic

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2008
Messages
2,254
Reaction score
79
How about the truth? "Im not feeling it." True enough, and to the point.
 

MusicMan450

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 13, 2011
Messages
54
Reaction score
1
Yeah, no need to make up false excuses. Girls already play these games enough, we don't need men playing them.
 

JohnnyStrabler

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 28, 2011
Messages
146
Reaction score
4
the Book of Pook's generic "You are not woman enough for me" the beauty of this is it takes away the weight off your shoulders, she can interpret it anyway she can and hopefully rationalizes it in a way that she wouldnt get hurt, so you didnt hurt her, she can interpret it anyway she can and you can still be in control (instead of saying you still have feelings for your ex) and you got rid of her. Everyone wins.

If you tell her the truth (e.g. "I am not feeling it"), you think a girl who is genuinely attracted to you will stop pursuing? I dont want to sound like a d!ck or an airbag nor do I mean to brag but you obviously have not been stalked before....

.....as some of the guy's sigs says here "If a woman wants to f*ck you, she will find a way to f*ck you" or something like that, or the other one that says "if a woman wants to see you she will move mountains to see you...." or something I forgot the exact words(I wish I written those guy's names, because what they say is SO TRUE!!!)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

IamJosan

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 5, 2011
Messages
230
Reaction score
9
Location
LA
I usually just stop talking to them. It's usually never anything serious. And when they ask where I've been, I say I've been busy. Why haven't you called ME?
 

DJDamage

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 6, 2004
Messages
5,657
Reaction score
104
Location
Canada
horaholic said:
How about the truth? "Im not feeling it." True enough, and to the point.
Some chicks can handle the truth, others can't and then go around telling everyone you know that you can't get it up or have a 2 inch d1ck.

I usually say that I am very busy due to work/looking for a new job which leaves me little time for them. If they really like you they will put up with it for sometime in which case you can enjoy sex without dating for a short time before they get fed up and get the hint.
 

Jitterbug

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2008
Messages
3,197
Reaction score
140
Sugar-coated version of the truth, with the line "it's not working for me" thrown in somewhere.

What you say matters less than what you need to do to eliminate or minimize any attempt at character assassination afterwards.
 

SweetTooth

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 1, 2007
Messages
73
Reaction score
0
Age
36
Wtf? Girls have hurt me so badly with "gentle" rejections which actually gave me hope, so just ****ing say "no you're a good friend, sorry."

Though honestly I leave the second they "have to talk" (haha if it's possible), or if their friends say she likes me I'm just like "really? Cool..."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

SweetTooth

Don Juan
Joined
Mar 1, 2007
Messages
73
Reaction score
0
Age
36
JohnnyStrabler said:
"You are not woman enough for me" the beauty of this is
is that it's probably the most hurtful thing you could possibly say to a girl. What sort of crap is that lmao.
 

bigneil

Banned
Joined
Oct 20, 2006
Messages
8,265
Reaction score
2,644
Location
Texas
Tell them you've been seeing a girl from out of state where you travel for business.
 

Huffman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2007
Messages
1,499
Reaction score
166
Come on man you don't need to do that girly talk we all hate so much.

What I've used before was "I just can't imagine myself in a relationship right now" or "I don't want any commitment, sorry for being an ass".

Anyway stupid excuses are the BIGGEST INSULT you can make... it means you value them so little that you think they're stupid enough to actually believe it. I'm usually quite angry and disappointed when a girl gives me a stupid excuse (for example when flaking).

I got honest rejections before and it was actually not bad. We were being adults about it and I gained lots of respect. More often than not, we remained friends, NOT heartbroken.

Thing is: if you reject someone, there's no easy way to do it, without facing your own guilt. Make it quick and painful - they'll be thanking you later. I know I did.
 

JohnnyStrabler

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 28, 2011
Messages
146
Reaction score
4
SweetTooth said:
is that it's probably the most hurtful thing you could possibly say to a girl. What sort of crap is that lmao.
read the Book of Pook dude, its there page 258, and no its not hurtful, if she gets hurt she will get hurt with anything you say anyway with regards to rejecting her
 

Jitterbug

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2008
Messages
3,197
Reaction score
140
How do you honestly dump a girl because she's starting to get fat and you can tell she can never go back from there?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Huffman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2007
Messages
1,499
Reaction score
166
If you've been with a girl for a while and she lets herself get fat, that is actually a personality problem I think (like no ambitions, selfcontrol). So yeah, you don't fit together if you value these things.
A mind can be much uglier than a body...
 

Huffman

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2007
Messages
1,499
Reaction score
166
If you've been with a girl for a while and she lets herself get fat, that is actually a personality problem I think (like no ambitions, selfcontrol). So yeah, you don't fit together if you value these things.
A mind can be much uglier than a body...
 

Jitterbug

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 12, 2008
Messages
3,197
Reaction score
140
Love "you outgrew me" - I can't wait to use that line one day lol

Yeah Huffman because it's so much better to reject someone for a crappy personality than fatness. :p

In my case, we only dated for two months but enough for me to see the signs that she was gonna get huge... Two years later, she now looks like she ate a medium-sized farm animal.

My rejection line was about us having too different hobbies (not actually a problem for me). I do many physical activities, some quite intense.

I don't think it'd fly for me to say "Girl, we can't date anymore cos you have no self control."
 

Gangster Of Love

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 27, 2002
Messages
2,574
Reaction score
66
Age
52
Location
Los Angeles
SweetTooth said:
is that it's probably the most hurtful thing you could possibly say to a girl. What sort of crap is that lmao.
Agree. That would be equivalent to her tell you "You aren not man enough for me", which a lot of guys take it as "Your c0ck is not big enough for me", which of course, we know most guys in here would not be able to get over that one for a while.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Top