young love, marriage, and naivity

[Enjin 7]

long long story. I am with a girl. she has had previous boyfriends. I have hooked up with... lots of girls...

I am a sophomore in college. She is a freshman. I am the first person she has ever truely been in love with. She is the first person I have ever been truely in love with.

she keeps dropping subtle hints of how happy she would be if one day we were married. Honestly, I feel the same way.

my question is:

since we are comparatively young, are these feeling due to being naive? Are they due to us being in love with someone for the first time? or is this truely something worth considering, being that something like this may never come again?

I admit I am probably fairly naive as to love. and her being young as well, I would say the same for her.

so what are your thoughts?

 

[flexion_]

How long have you two been together? That should answer the question.

 

[Enjin 7]

friends for 6 months(we were attracted to each other from the beginning), together for 2. we have the "connection" where we feel like we've known each other for longer. we talk every day. hmmm...

 

[ManUnited01]

Way too soon to start considering marriage dude

 

[Damian]

How about finishing school and settling into a cushy career first?

-Damian

 

[Enjin 7]

how about I graduate med school circa 2013 and finally settle into a cushy career 4 years after that. BIFF FOR ME! BIFF FOR 8 years of school and 4 years of shadowing to finally start my job!

 

[JonJack]

Whether it's because of love or because the two of you are naive doesn't really matter if you're willing to experience whatever it is there is to experience with her even if it turns out to be filled with pain and heartache.

Are you willing to face failure in this relationship? If you are, then go forth and dive into marriage if that's what you were planning for. If you fear losing it all and cannot imagine yourself being able to handle all the pain and hurt, then I strongly suggest you take a step back and reflect a little deeper as to whether you feel it reasonable to be going so fast with this girl.

Bottom line though, just be strong enough to face whatever might happen. Being hurt is a common experience. It's something most of us should face just for the experience. Just don't come out of it being a sad fvck that isn't gonna screw other girls because that first one was the only one even though she's screwing some other dude now. Go ahead and hurt, but also learn to let go.

If everything turns out fine, then good for you. There's nothing else to say to that really.

 

[Enjin 7]

yeah man. thats exactly how I feel. I feel that Im deeply in love with her, and that it could result in marriage. I also feel like experiences are what shape you, and that even bad experiences are meant to happen. I dont fear being hurt. If it happens, it happens.

People my age are getting married all of the time, and honestly, its kind of scary... because basically I feel as if all of the marriage material is being taken lol. I will marry a virgin... and those are sooooooo hard to find these days.

my friends and I did a calculation, and I would only even CONSIDER dating .05% (based on several factors that cant be changed, including looks, virginity, and a few personality traits) of every girl I come across. that negates how we get along, etc... so I feel that this girl is pretty special.

lololol

 

[ThunderMaverick]

And why would you need to marry her? What's the benefit of marriage that you don't already have now? You think marriage will make you love her more? Marriage for you at your age is way too complicated. Marriage isn't just about love, it's about a whole nuther set of things you have to deal with, legally and financially. You don't need marriage now. Stop thinking about it. Unless you can give me 5 reasons why you SHOULD get married NOW!