"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You'll find me in da club...

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what's up fellas?? this is my first post here but i've been reading up on the bible for a little while now just trying to absorb as much theory as i can while putting it into practice. i'm seriously humbled by the wisdom i'm seeing here.

here's the deal. i just moved into the san francisco bay area this summer, which has opened up a whole new world to me since i go to college in iowa and don't normally have access to the resources a metropolitan area like s.f. provides.

so i've been checking out clubs in the city, trying to meet girls, but here's the problem--i can't friggin dance for the life of me. i'm about a 9 in the looks department, good personality, sense of humor, etc., maybe a little shy. but i can't dance for sh!t... how do i approach a girl in the club without looking like one of those fools who just stands around lookinlike a jackass or just sneaks in from behind and starts grinding cuz he doesnt know any other moves?

also, some tips on how to get a girl to go home with you when you're at the club would be helpful. my cousin is skilled when it comes to the 'tang, and he's been taking me out and showing me some tricks--his technique is basically to hang out at the bar area, wait for a hot girl to come around and offer her a drink, make some sh!t up to impress the girl, buy her more drinks till she's bombed enough, and take her home in a cab. seems to work for him like a charm. does anyone have anything else that works, maybe another sure-fire way to get those 10s from the club and into the sack? thanks guys, i appreciate it

-roman
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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you're a 9? shouldn't be too much trouble if you are, or even if you think like that.

dancewise- i've found no useful tips on this forum about it ever! basically, most guys are shyt at it. i've improved simply by watching those who look like they know what they're doing. try dancing in the mirror while listening to music. yes, it seems very stupid, but it'll help if you keep trying new things. one of the mistakes i made was to put too much energy into my legs. try moving your hips to the music- that way it'll look like you fit in with everyone else, which is what you're after right?

there are articles on club tactics in the bible already. i'd also strongly recommend reading finger's weapons of mass seduction
 

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Originally posted by gav
you're a 9? shouldn't be too much trouble if you are, or even if you think like that.
you'd think with a 9 in looks i'd be able to land almost any chick without a problem. it's true that girls are physically attracted to me, but i'm a reserved guy; i don't talk a lot, have an even temper, and am careful with my words and conservative with my gestures), which often works to my advantage in meeting girls at college but isnt very advantageous on the dance floor of a club--does that make sense?. see i used to be very shy and kinda awkward socially due to social anxiety, but now i've forced myself to become outgoing and am just now starting to get into the social scene after being a recluse in high school (i've found drinking helps me relax and be more outgoing). my first year of college (this past year) i landed a perfect 10 (she was from europe) but couldnt hook her longer than a couple weeks. i know now that the reason i failed with her was that i wasnt a challenge and was being too nice. so now i'm refining my dj skills, abandoning my old "nice guy" image and starting a new life for myself.

so mastering the club scene is my next goal, which involves learning how to dance. i'll definitely check out the dj bible for more club tactics, and i appreciate your advice.

thanks,
roman
 

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Originally posted by roman
my cousin is skilled when it comes to the 'tang, and he's been taking me out and showing me some tricks--his technique is basically to hang out at the bar area, wait for a hot girl to come around and offer her a drink, make some sh!t up to impress the girl, buy her more drinks till she's bombed enough, and take her home in a cab. seems to work for him like a charm. does anyone have anything else that works
That is straight up AFC, not to mention shady. You could end up behind bars if you did that to the wrong woman.
 

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Re: Re: You'll find me in da club...

Originally posted by Mercenary
That is straight up AFC, not to mention shady. You could end up behind bars if you did that to the wrong woman.
maybe you misunderstood... the girls are consenting. i just mean, they are drunk enough to be eager to go home. i'm not going to argue with you though, it is shady and definitely not my approach to women. works for him though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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There's a San Francisco LAIR and PLAY list players and prospective wings.

If you have the chance, try and wing with Jlaix. The bastard just hooked up with a hot bi-sexual girl as his pivot & wing and has been nailing threesomes like there's no tomorrow.
 
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