"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You will never be successful with women

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until you learn to live without them.


You will never be able to have women jocking for your attention, until learn to urge that craving for attention by developing things that peak your interest in life and give you a sense of well being.

You will never be able to see a woman for who she truely is, until you aren't depenent on her approval

A woman may thing you are a great guy, but she will not respect you unless she knows that she is not the center of your life.

And finally, you will never move foward in the ever ending progression of the dating game and understanding women, until you look into the mirror and start taking responsbility for your own actions in life.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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This is a troll post. My post is a troll post, sorry. I'm just opening this up to say that what your saying has been said a thousand different ways, and this is not even near the top of the list. Show me up, give me something special.

Why even worry about women? Hasn't that been said too? Don't worry about women, unless you really want one, don't lie to yourself that you don't want them. Do tell yourself that everything is going to be fine though, if it is going to be fine. I really don't know where I am going...

tell me again what you said, and make it mean something. Your not going to get away with being so nice to me. Your not going to sleep with me if I was a girl for this nicey nicey thread you just made under tips.
 

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everyone is listening, but no one is hearing me.. just take a look over at the general dicussion fourm.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Basically, this post stress the key of not being needy.
 

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I tend to think things through in their extreme to really understand them.

In this case, imagine having your face really ****ed up (think Vanilla Sky) and having to live like that for the rest of your life. You would literally have to be content in living your life without women.
 

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Originally posted by backbreaker
everyone is listening, but no one is hearing me.. just take a look over at the general dicussion fourm.
backbreaker, do you know why I am angry right now? I am not a sex fiend, I haven't masturbated once this year, I have had sex, but only when I blacked out, so I can't remember, I've done kino, and I've talked about sex openly with guys and joked about it with girls. No competition in getting sex anymore, it's almost too boring for me, I am getting angry, because nobody believes that I am right about OTHER things in my life. Probably because I haven't proved them wrong, like I do whenever they ask about the ladies.

So I am on the opposite end of the spectrum, I am so good with the ladies, that I think I NEED them to be successful, but I don't WANT them right now.

So telling me I am not successful with women, was meant to arouse me right? To get me angry, to make me look and think, than ask a question? Well here it goes!

What do I do, to have the desire to socialize? The other thread got sidetracked by two obstinant ****ers talking about morals in business, so maybe you can help me out.
 

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that's an immature way to look at it.

maybe this post isnt' for you.. it isn't. It's for the guys who get down after a girl rejects them, etc. Who put too much stock in women.

That's let me reading every AFC post on LJBFs and then getting mad because it doesn't pertain to me.. I just skip it
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by backbreaker
that's an immature way to look at it.

maybe this post isnt' for you.. it isn't. It's for the guys who get down after a girl rejects them, etc. Who put too much stock in women.

That's let me reading every AFC post on LJBFs and then getting mad because it doesn't pertain to me.. I just skip it
This is my day of reckoning:p

Thanks, what you said is true, I just wasn't going to believe it until somebody meant it. Sorry for getting angry, I don't know a better way yet, all the funny people in my life turn out to be the worst of them all. I have no comedic idols that I can reach out and touch on a regular basis, I wish I was who I am in public on this site.
 
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