You Were Not Cawkblocked. She Doesnt Like You

[Pandora]

Its important for men to be able to admit when a woman does not like them. My friend invited me on a date with a girl he had matched with online that day. He wanted to kill two birds with one stone. It was me and another guy with him. We have done this before and everything went fine. Ive known him for 2 decades.

I am charming with women because I been practicing since I was 17. I been on this site for 20 yrs. So this girl was talking to me the most. I was talking back but never in my mind was I trying to steal her. I would even try to redirect the convo to make it about them.

I called her his date and she made it clear that it was not a date. She even mentioned " you are trying to help your boy". Long story short we had a lot of chemistry. I made it clear that I was not interested because she should be with my friend. I even talked about his good qualities and tried to get her to go back to his house. She ended up ghosting him.

Now he feels like I cokbloked him. The other guy that was with us disagrees and just feels like she was not interested.

Side Note:

There is a girl I had been wanting to hang out with who was playing hot and cold. I had to admit to myself that she was just not interested. I dont know why men have such a hard time admitting this. Instead of being truthful they blame it on "cokblocking" or her playing "hard to get".

If a girls wants you then there is very little you can do to mess it up. Your vices turn into virtues. Its very simple.

 

[Mike32ct]

While it may have worked out ok for you guys in the past, I probably wouldn’t recommend bringing guy friends along on a first date.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Why would a guy ever want to have two other guys with him on a first date? Essentially that's asking her to decide which of the 3 guys she is more interested in.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I can't ever imagine taking a mate along to a first date with me , it's an utterly retarded move and I can't imagine many women aside from total SLooots would be cool with it

 

[Pandora]

While it may have worked out ok for you guys in the past, I probably wouldn’t recommend bringing guy friends along on a first date.

Yeh well she initially said she was bringing friends but didnt. I think he just wanted to hang with the boys too and was like " some girl from online wants to hang out". She hit him up last minute.

 

[Pandora]

I can't ever imagine taking a mate along to a first date with me , it's an utterly retarded move and I can't imagine many women aside from total SLooots would be cool with it

Yeh I understand. She randomly hit him up after he had commited to hanging with me. He also asked her to bring friends and she said cool but showed up alone. Me and him are so cool that it was never an issue before. Not on my side anyway.

It was at a bar so it was less formal than a dinner date. More like " come get drinks, my boys will be here too so bring your girls".

I did tell him next time you go on your own solo mission.

 

[Pandora]

Ive brought girls on first meetings to bars before. My friends have also been at these bars. I am of the philosophy that if she likes you then she likes you. If another guy can take her that easily then she was not very interested in you.

I also agree that it is not the wisest thing to do unless you really dont care too much if she gets taken. When I was dating I didnt care too much about most of the girls in that city.

 

[Pumax]

Men, women live with a romance novel mentality.
They want to fix the problematic man, and when they know they've done it, they move on to the next story.

Our logical minds think women prioritize things like status, money, fitness, connection, and romance. None of these things are problems she needs to solve.

Women's emotions are the opposite of our logic; they prioritize drama, turbulence, FOMO, and uncertainty because they satisfy their romance novel thinking.

Based on the offline world I see with my own eyes and my own experience, I can confidently say that Chad can be ghosted if he's good, and Brad can be f7cked if he's a jerk. If Chad is peaceful and chivalrous and provides certainty about his level of interest, he'll be ghosted by a Brad who causes chaos and uncertainty because that particular Brad seems more "preselected," so the woman feels more secure with him regardless of his looks, status, connection skills, etc.

Given this I do ask myself and all men here:
If this is the premise, and we men work for being the "chad" in this scenario, or to say, to become good one, mature man, we might want to accept we're becoming the opposite of toxic, which actually is what women do not seek.