"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You were in a dream I had....

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Probably isn't new but I haven't seen it posted recently and I am new to all this. This tip is a variation on the one where you tell a woman that you know something about them and then keep changing the subject and thus "hooking" them and increasing their interest level.

All you need to do is say, SMS, email to a woman you already know (be it friend or someone you are dating in the early stages):

"You were in one of my dreams last night, it was really freaky".

It is important that you drop it in casually and then change the subject or say this as you are leaving or at the end of the SMS/Email. Also be careful not to frame it as:

"I had a dream about you last night". (In my oppinion this sounds a bit AFC'ish and makes them think that you are thinking about them quite a lot, which to me isn't good, also sets the wrong frame).

Next time they see you they will probably have been thinking about the supposed dream that you had with them in it. They will have been thinking about it and analysing different situations that could of occured.

You can either keep teasing them when you meet/SMS/Email them next and this will build tension (you know how woman are ;-) ). Or you can use it to go into quite a few different methods;

1) Push+pull
2) Distorted time frames
3) Elicit values
4) Story telling

etc....

The benefit of using a dream is that by their nature anything can happen in a dream and can be easily dismissed if she responds with a bad reaction.

Apologies if this is old material, just hadn't seen it before. Have already field tested it with about three woman this week with good results.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That's a good technique if your a good actor.

It's sort of like the "you remind me of someone" technique...
 

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NO, Don't do this. I did something like this in person and the next time I saw her, she became more distant. If you're going to try to enter some sort of "fantasy thought" in her mind - try something happy and neutral like "I had a dream where I saw this girl whose face I didn't recognize but I kinda knew her.. she was dancing in a field of flowers" - she'll think HMMM in a good way. If you said "I saw a girl in my dreams... and I think she had your face dancing in the flowers" she will think you are obsessing about her.
 

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If you tell a woman you saw her in your dreams...

A naive woman would think, "this guy is a mystic"
An intelligent woman would think, "now that's a real cheesy pick up line...this guy just wants to get in my pants"

N20666, if you wish to discuss women showing up in your dreams, it's best you be vague about it...dream her but don't let her know you dream her...don't show obsession...
 
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