"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You should read this.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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As I think more and more about this, I begin to ponder various thing's.
Essentially, I am worried about advancing too quickly. The whole situation to me is rather confusing, sad that I must come here and explain my problems over and over but it helps me cope with the situation, and it gives me a little boost of confidence when I sit down and write out my situation. The bad part is that I might be thinking about it too much.
Even after the few recommended thing's here, they really are not guiding me in any certain direction.
We have been friend's for a while, and she does not know that I like her. Well I cant say that for sure because im not her, but more than likely she probably think's we are just friend's. how the hell do I advance! I am afraid to do anything drastic....but if that's all that you guys can advise, I might as well just do it. Find out if shes interested, if not than I could have just burned any chances. Im curious as to if I should bust a move now, or keep slowwwwwly progressing.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.