"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"You should hook up with our friend."

MVPlaya

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So a couple days ago I was at a party at my frat house when a girl randomly started a conversation with me about my shirt. We talked a little, and I joked, and she asked:

"Are you one of those guys who goes out to find girls to hook up with?"

This kind of knocked me off balance, as I wasn't sure how to reply.

"Haha, I live here, just out to have a fun time."

"Well, cause you should totally hook up with our friend, and she's hot too."


How in the **** do you respond to that? The friend was hot. But I feel like I'm being ****-tested / tricked, and there is this awkwardness of "shouldn't the friend make that call?" Its just weird since I'm generally trying Mystery Method and it seemed I was being Gunwitched in some form.

My question is this: 'if you have someone make blatant sexual come ons like that, how do you respond?'
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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flexion_

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"Actually I'm saving myself for marriage..."

"I get that a lot..."

"Sign me up!"

Just have fun with it!
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by flexion_
"Sign me up!"

Just have fun with it!
Haha, thats awesome. FUN is numero one!
 

john_1234

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i've had that happen to me a couple of times. one time i was talking to this hottie and after several minutes, she brings up her "hot friend," asks if i'm single and if i'd be interested in her. when girls pull **** like this, are they for real? is this "hot friend" just make believe
 

spider_007

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i had that hapen to me twice in a club, but it was THE GUY that said it (he was in the groop). He was like: "see that brunette that came with us, go talk to her, she is looking for somebody" i was like, whaterver (no balls)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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