"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You really, really are a special guy.

TheGameMaster

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Having moved to university, I have met alot of guys and have been open and looking to find more good male buddies, much like we all should be. You can never have enough friends. And in terms of finding other people with the common interest in self/life improvement, I am really struggling to find anyone. So many people are accepting mediocrity in their lives, living the same life day after day. Basically just accepting their current reality and not striving for better. Because of this, I am pretty lonely quite alot. Out of my uni mates, I am the only one who wants things to improve all the time and it drives me mad. I just went to dinner with them and they stopped by at the bookies to waste a load of money on a virtual game of roulette. I walked home by myself, gambling like that is well desperate. Its not that I think I am better than them, I just see the world in a different, more positive light and I can't seem to find like minded people that I can help to grow, and that can help me to grow too, having loads of fun along the way! Which brings me to the point of this thread. People genuinely striving for better are damn rare. If you are following even 10% of the info on this site, then you are in a position to be streets ahead of 99% of other guys; not that you should compare yourself to other people. Thats external validation. So from what you have learned here, always remember that you are probably the most unique guy in your city/area and treat yourself as such. There are hot girls everywhere, but guys like you only come along once in every X thousand guys she meets. Remember, you are THE man, so don't be forgetting it in a hurry.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Lusterkx2

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Agree with you! I have no friends that wants to improve with me. But I improve anyways. Good post!
 

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yeah the Pook guide in the bible had a post on it, as you start becoming so much better and improving yourself and just doing more things in general, you will realize how far you have surpassed everyone in your mentality. but his post also explains once you start surpassing everyone you are in a field of your own, and you will get lonely being all alone at the top
 
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