"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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you let her do what she wants and not care nor show jealousy, but..

big weezy

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..when is it appropriate to lay the law down?

a lot of these hot girls have lots of male friends.. some orbiters, some genuine threats to your position.

she says she's going to meet up with a friend for coffee.. u dont ask who, so could be male or female, if u do ask and even if she says its a guy you let her go otherwise she'll do it behind your back..

however.. when is it appropriate to make it clear what is acceptable and what isnt? more importantly.. how?

girls believe they can have as many male friends as they want and it's no big deal and pretend the guys aren't interested.. obviously i'll do the sanme thing and go see females for coffee and if she tells me that it's not cool, i'll throw it back in her face that shes doing the exact same thing.. so if she says she'll stop if i do, if i stop she'll more than likely do it behind my back and i'll have no way of knowing?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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big weezy said:
..when is it appropriate to lay the law down?

a lot of these hot girls have lots of male friends.. some orbiters, some genuine threats to your position.

she says she's going to meet up with a friend for coffee.. u dont ask who, so could be male or female, if u do ask and even if she says its a guy you let her go otherwise she'll do it behind your back..

however.. when is it appropriate to make it clear what is acceptable and what isnt? more importantly.. how?

girls believe they can have as many male friends as they want and it's no big deal and pretend the guys aren't interested.. obviously i'll do the sanme thing and go see females for coffee and if she tells me that it's not cool, i'll throw it back in her face that shes doing the exact same thing.. so if she says she'll stop if i do, if i stop she'll more than likely do it behind my back and i'll have no way of knowing?
Men:logic = women:emotions therefore you cannot reason with a girl the same way you can do with a man, this is what afc do they think that if they do X she will do Y back we all know how wrong they are, your girls would probably do what she considers the best thing in that given moment.

I cant give you a correct answer cause my gf would never do anything like that and even in the case she would I'll probably turn into a caveman and take down her home with my fists.
I sometime remain with my mouth open when I read what certain guys have to tolerate as if it was a necessary evil.

So my suggestions are:

1)disrespect is not a fact you have to deal with, cause its not the norm, the norm is respect and an average girl no matter how stupid she can be knows well the difference.

2)Dont make the most common mistake of thinking women reason by logic just like men, and most of all "keep my word" is simply not part of their life imperatives.
 
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You set your boundaries in the build up of the relationship. I do that and if she doesn't like them, then she can bore off and find someone else. Never compromise on your boundaries. If she calls you "insecure, controlling and selfish" just smile and walk away from her, she's not relationship material. You can't change a hoe, so there is no point in trying. If a girl wants to hang out with men alone, she can do that, I won't stop her, but I'll dump her and walk away not looking back. I am no longer going to waste my time on girls who aren't worthy of my time.
 

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Keep acting like you don't care either way, then stop contacting her and find another one.

Unless you don't mind being a door mat.
 

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perseverance said:
You can't change a hoe, so there is no point in trying. If a girl wants to hang out with men alone, she can do that, I won't stop her, but I'll dump her and walk away not looking back. I am no longer going to waste my time on girls who aren't worthy of my time.
The man said it all ^
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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