"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you let her do what she wants and not care nor show jealousy, but..

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..when is it appropriate to lay the law down?

a lot of these hot girls have lots of male friends.. some orbiters, some genuine threats to your position.

she says she's going to meet up with a friend for coffee.. u dont ask who, so could be male or female, if u do ask and even if she says its a guy you let her go otherwise she'll do it behind your back..

however.. when is it appropriate to make it clear what is acceptable and what isnt? more importantly.. how?

girls believe they can have as many male friends as they want and it's no big deal and pretend the guys aren't interested.. obviously i'll do the sanme thing and go see females for coffee and if she tells me that it's not cool, i'll throw it back in her face that shes doing the exact same thing.. so if she says she'll stop if i do, if i stop she'll more than likely do it behind my back and i'll have no way of knowing?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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big weezy said:
..when is it appropriate to lay the law down?

a lot of these hot girls have lots of male friends.. some orbiters, some genuine threats to your position.

she says she's going to meet up with a friend for coffee.. u dont ask who, so could be male or female, if u do ask and even if she says its a guy you let her go otherwise she'll do it behind your back..

however.. when is it appropriate to make it clear what is acceptable and what isnt? more importantly.. how?

girls believe they can have as many male friends as they want and it's no big deal and pretend the guys aren't interested.. obviously i'll do the sanme thing and go see females for coffee and if she tells me that it's not cool, i'll throw it back in her face that shes doing the exact same thing.. so if she says she'll stop if i do, if i stop she'll more than likely do it behind my back and i'll have no way of knowing?
Men:logic = women:emotions therefore you cannot reason with a girl the same way you can do with a man, this is what afc do they think that if they do X she will do Y back we all know how wrong they are, your girls would probably do what she considers the best thing in that given moment.

I cant give you a correct answer cause my gf would never do anything like that and even in the case she would I'll probably turn into a caveman and take down her home with my fists.
I sometime remain with my mouth open when I read what certain guys have to tolerate as if it was a necessary evil.

So my suggestions are:

1)disrespect is not a fact you have to deal with, cause its not the norm, the norm is respect and an average girl no matter how stupid she can be knows well the difference.

2)Dont make the most common mistake of thinking women reason by logic just like men, and most of all "keep my word" is simply not part of their life imperatives.
 
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You set your boundaries in the build up of the relationship. I do that and if she doesn't like them, then she can bore off and find someone else. Never compromise on your boundaries. If she calls you "insecure, controlling and selfish" just smile and walk away from her, she's not relationship material. You can't change a hoe, so there is no point in trying. If a girl wants to hang out with men alone, she can do that, I won't stop her, but I'll dump her and walk away not looking back. I am no longer going to waste my time on girls who aren't worthy of my time.
 

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Keep acting like you don't care either way, then stop contacting her and find another one.

Unless you don't mind being a door mat.
 

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perseverance said:
You can't change a hoe, so there is no point in trying. If a girl wants to hang out with men alone, she can do that, I won't stop her, but I'll dump her and walk away not looking back. I am no longer going to waste my time on girls who aren't worthy of my time.
The man said it all ^
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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