"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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you let her do what she wants and not care nor show jealousy, but..

big weezy

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..when is it appropriate to lay the law down?

a lot of these hot girls have lots of male friends.. some orbiters, some genuine threats to your position.

she says she's going to meet up with a friend for coffee.. u dont ask who, so could be male or female, if u do ask and even if she says its a guy you let her go otherwise she'll do it behind your back..

however.. when is it appropriate to make it clear what is acceptable and what isnt? more importantly.. how?

girls believe they can have as many male friends as they want and it's no big deal and pretend the guys aren't interested.. obviously i'll do the sanme thing and go see females for coffee and if she tells me that it's not cool, i'll throw it back in her face that shes doing the exact same thing.. so if she says she'll stop if i do, if i stop she'll more than likely do it behind my back and i'll have no way of knowing?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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big weezy said:
..when is it appropriate to lay the law down?

a lot of these hot girls have lots of male friends.. some orbiters, some genuine threats to your position.

she says she's going to meet up with a friend for coffee.. u dont ask who, so could be male or female, if u do ask and even if she says its a guy you let her go otherwise she'll do it behind your back..

however.. when is it appropriate to make it clear what is acceptable and what isnt? more importantly.. how?

girls believe they can have as many male friends as they want and it's no big deal and pretend the guys aren't interested.. obviously i'll do the sanme thing and go see females for coffee and if she tells me that it's not cool, i'll throw it back in her face that shes doing the exact same thing.. so if she says she'll stop if i do, if i stop she'll more than likely do it behind my back and i'll have no way of knowing?
Men:logic = women:emotions therefore you cannot reason with a girl the same way you can do with a man, this is what afc do they think that if they do X she will do Y back we all know how wrong they are, your girls would probably do what she considers the best thing in that given moment.

I cant give you a correct answer cause my gf would never do anything like that and even in the case she would I'll probably turn into a caveman and take down her home with my fists.
I sometime remain with my mouth open when I read what certain guys have to tolerate as if it was a necessary evil.

So my suggestions are:

1)disrespect is not a fact you have to deal with, cause its not the norm, the norm is respect and an average girl no matter how stupid she can be knows well the difference.

2)Dont make the most common mistake of thinking women reason by logic just like men, and most of all "keep my word" is simply not part of their life imperatives.
 
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You set your boundaries in the build up of the relationship. I do that and if she doesn't like them, then she can bore off and find someone else. Never compromise on your boundaries. If she calls you "insecure, controlling and selfish" just smile and walk away from her, she's not relationship material. You can't change a hoe, so there is no point in trying. If a girl wants to hang out with men alone, she can do that, I won't stop her, but I'll dump her and walk away not looking back. I am no longer going to waste my time on girls who aren't worthy of my time.
 

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Keep acting like you don't care either way, then stop contacting her and find another one.

Unless you don't mind being a door mat.
 

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perseverance said:
You can't change a hoe, so there is no point in trying. If a girl wants to hang out with men alone, she can do that, I won't stop her, but I'll dump her and walk away not looking back. I am no longer going to waste my time on girls who aren't worthy of my time.
The man said it all ^
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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