"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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"You have really good skin"

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I went out with a girl a few weeks ago and that was one of the first things she said to me. It's not that I have the greatest skin ever, but I do take care of it a little better than most guys do.

Having clear skin is important, and not that hard. When I was younger (high school, beginning of college) i had acne. My skin isn't great by any stretch, but its clear, at least.

Where are you going wrong? You are probably treating the skin on your face the same way you treat the skin on your ass (I know I was): a little bar soap in the shower and that's it. Needless so say, you should do a little more than that.

Here's what I do, which I guess works because since I've started I've had multiple girls comment on my skin. I use face wash instead of bar soap in the shower. I use a Nivea for men variety for oily skin (because I have oily skin), once I get out of the shower I use a facial moisturizer made my Gillette for men. That, married to the fact that I drink a Sh@tload of water all day makes my skin look good.

Try it out. Girls notice these things. Having clear skin is not metro.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'll try it out. Thanks for the tip.
 

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Clean skin is great. Women always compliment me on how soft my hands feel.
 

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Originally posted by GaryNas
Clean skin is great. Women always compliment me on how soft my hands feel.
not to sound macho, actually this is more like a question.
how can u have soft hands if u lift weights, play guitar, or any male activity ?
 

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Originally posted by Lost
not to sound macho, actually this is more like a question.
how can u have soft hands if u lift weights, play guitar, or any male activity ?
I lift Weights, and am very active in general. I always et comments on how soft my hands are. Just look after them, a quick slapon of some hand cream morning and before bed does the trick!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Originally posted by Lost
not to sound macho, actually this is more like a question.
how can u have soft hands if u lift weights, play guitar, or any male activity ?

I wear gloves when I lift weights. It makes a big difference.
 

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Originally posted by Lost
not to sound macho, actually this is more like a question.
how can u have soft hands if u lift weights, play guitar, or any male activity ?
I'm a computer programmer. :) In contrast, my brother who has similar hobbies as mine is a constructor worker and his hands are very coarse.
 

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I use bar soap on my face and sometimes it looks like im shedding because my skin is so dry. Either that or its toothpaste not sure whic yet
 

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right now i do the acne.org regime for my face. it has helped me A LOT. however, i still have very oily skin.

my skin is much more clear now, too. but like i said, the oily skin is still a problem.

how do i solve this?

you mentioned nivia for men for oily skin? did it have that much of an effect? how often do you use it?

thanks.
 

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Sebum is a result of hormones, many say DHT specifically. Therefore it's really hard to control oil from the outside.

Some things you can do are:
1. drink 10 glasses of water a day.
2. put a thin layer of milk of magnesia on your face and wipe off the residue after it dries. This is some peoples holy grail. It also is dirt cheap and works better than 99% of those overpriced oil control cremes.
3. Drink a few glasses of good loose leaf green tea a day. It is a DHT blocker, with one glass inhibiting the testosterone conversion to DHT by 87%.
4. Don't overwash. This not only means no body soap, but no harsh acne cleansers. Mild cleansers are all you need. YOu need to keep the acid mantle on your skin and most products strip that off, thus you produce more oil to compensate. It's this acid mantle that kills the p acnes bacteria.

I could go on for ever about this but visit some boards and search the net. Some of the best things for your face are right in your kitchen.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Tempest:

I use Nivea for men stuff in a sort of green blue bottle. Its that whole "special formulated for oily skin" type of thing.

I'm not 100% sure if this is really how it works, but this makes sense to me; use a moisturizer once you get done washing your face. they thing it, for guys like us at least, out faces make too much oil. Well, once you wash your face really good all of a sudden your face is really dry. The problem is then, you face knows it is dry all of a sudden, and produces a whole bunch more oil, therefore making the problem worse. If you moisturize then your face doesn't feel the need to overproduce oil because it never knew it got dry.

It looks like blackbirdbeatle knows whats up. You might want to try out what he has to say too.

All I know is this is what works for me. But it probably couldn't hurt if you gave it a shot, it did a lot for me.
 
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