lamath
Master Don Juan
only good thing in this thread so far
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You guys were right about lack of confidence crippling me
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
logicallefty
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Finally, somebody sees the red pill version of this. One single person, right there^. The rest of You guys are like a pack of female hyenas chasing the male wildebeest. But in this case the Wildebeest is still grazing and doing his thing. And seems to be pretty unscathed.
logicallefty
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Ok make that two people who get it.
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BigDave's overall intentions of finding the right woman to marry and settle down with and have a family is fine.
The idea that you need to start having sex with women you are not married and brag about it and say that this didn't help you go from point A to point B is stupid on so many levels. That's something to be ashamed of rather than brag about or use as a means to and end. You don't use people on principle for your own selfish or sexual pleasure as that's just animalistic and it's a sin against the moral intent of why you are here.
Why fight for something that most people are going to hell for anyway and instead use the same energy and time work on your soul instead and seek Jesus to save your soul.
That includes porn as well. I don't see any justification on why Dave is viewing porn either, especially lesbian porn. The Lord sees everything including Dave watching porn and He is angry at sin. He should be praying rather than watching porn. Cry out for mercy that the Lord will spare him with his wrath for his many sins and that includes everyone reading this as well.
Dave, you must get down on your knees and pray for the right woman. Make a deal with God. Vow to Him that if He gives you the right woman what you will do in exchange for this. Will you get serious with Jesus if he solved this problem in your life? Join a Bible school? Think carefully about how badly you want the right woman and have faith.
I'm believing God for the right woman myself. I haven't seen her yet, but then again, I get it that God might be working behind the scenes, and one fateful day, that moment will happen and I'll be shocked and have to say this was God. It is my seeing miracles like this that further substantiates my faith to show that God is real and is very interested in these types of affairs. I don't advise something I'm not doing myself. I might even have to pray around women for the nerve to talk with them and approach them if I'm too shy, in the future. I mean if it's easier to pray than talk to them, why not? We rely on ourselves too much and should trust God for everything.
Its the other way around, it's guys like you and a few others who continue to give him attention and offering advice over and over and over and over and over and over again just to get the same results.
Doing the same thing expecting different results is insanity.
He comes back for more because you guys are enabling him, like a parent to a spoiled child. This is why he will never be more than what he is, everyone needs tough love sometimes.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You and others like you have posted on his threads more then I actually did.
Vastly more.
Repeatedly so.
Going by ur own quote above, that seems to suggest that you and the others here are actually insane.
logicallefty
Moderator
Maybe I can settle this. There is one group here who keeps repeatedly violating the form rules, and one group who does not. Can anyone guess which group is gonna prevail in the end??
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
any shrink with any sense will get frustrated after listening to dave's excuses and give him xanax just to shut him up.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Daves problem is a lack of puzzy and too much pride to take the advise that works
Meditate on modesty and things you appreciate in life. Think about the legacy you leave behind if you were to die today. Who will be at your funeral?
Once you consider these things your soul will be slightly richer. That is the key to endless vagina. Also harness control of your genitals. Maybe visit family. Go into depression. Go monk-mode. These are all options which may help.
Or read Game by Roosh. Focus on school, martial arts.
These are all options for you. They are all a part of personal growth and that is what you have to do. Best you try and grow towards the light or else you will not grow at all.
Once you consider these things your soul will be slightly richer. That is the key to endless vagina. Also harness control of your genitals. Maybe visit family. Go into depression. Go monk-mode. These are all options which may help.
Or read Game by Roosh. Focus on school, martial arts.
These are all options for you. They are all a part of personal growth and that is what you have to do. Best you try and grow towards the light or else you will not grow at all.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
R
Ranger
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Really?