"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You guys were right about lack of confidence crippling me

bigdave17

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Last night, I actually approached a few sets of women (well my friends did, I was wingman). They went ok, not enough chemistry with any of the girls to ask for a number


I'm noticing when I go anywhere that I can very easily make friends yet I struggle tremendously to make women like me. The only difference seems to be that I believe these people will want to be friends with me but I just can't stop doubting myself with the women


How do I build confidence in myself towards dating? I've done everything people have recommended - maximizing all areas of my life and that didn't help. I've slept with 12-15 women way below my league and that didn't help. Why do I feel like dating is so damn hard?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sazc

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Heeeere we go again!

Ppl are going to give you advice @bigdave17 and you are going to reply to them and tell them they are wrong. Because that is what you do.
 

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Heeeere we go again!

Ppl are going to give you advice @bigdave17 and you are going to reply to them and tell them they are wrong. Because that is what you do.
Another 1000+ post troll.

My suggestion is to start fvcking some of the women you belueve you desires slightly lesser attractive friends. Until then fvck someone "below" your league you like spending time with. You shouldn't go dry over 30+ days. Your sexuality is currently dead and its unattractive.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Last night, I actually approached a few sets of women (well my friends did, I was wingman). They went ok, not enough chemistry with any of the girls to ask for a number


I'm noticing when I go anywhere that I can very easily make friends yet I struggle tremendously to make women like me. The only difference seems to be that I believe these people will want to be friends with me but I just can't stop doubting myself with the women


How do I build confidence in myself towards dating? I've done everything people have recommended - maximizing all areas of my life and that didn't help. I've slept with 12-15 women way below my league and that didn't help. Why do I feel like dating is so damn hard?
Yawn. ^^^Fake news diversion thread from your dating app thread soon as your bs excuses ran out and you were cornered.

You struggle tremendously with implementing advice and leaving this forum permanently because you're here for nothing more than attention
 

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This just in guys, breaking news here... fellow sosuave memeber Big Dave is actually a computer application.

I'll have more information as this story develops
 

corrector

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I've slept with 12-15 women way below my league and that didn't help
Repent of your fornication. You should be married before having sex.

True confidence is being able to approach God with a clear conscience and be forgiven of your sins. Are you confident towards God? His opinion is more important than a woman's opinion because He created women. He said it wasn't good that Adam was created by himself and decided to create women out of one of his ribs in his rib-cage. So be right with God and stop this fornication thing and stop posting crazy threads on here.
 

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You don't make them like you.
 

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The more you struggle, the less they like you. You don't make women like you, you do you and either they like you or they don't. The moment you are trying to make them like you, they won't because it's the very essence of desperation.


I just need to learn true confidence
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Trying to get them to like you? That’s the wrong model. You could do that until the cows come home. When that doesn’t work, and it won’t, what are you going to have left to try?
You need to start from scratch Dave.
 

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Repent of your fornication. You should be married before having sex.
You're on this forum, and BigDave is the guy you decide to reproach about this?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If you don't like his post feel free to press the ignore button.

Why don't you guys do it ?

Seems some guys just enjoys getting off some perverse high from bashing him and trolling all his threads.

Then u r also part of the problem.
 

zekko

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If you don't like his post feel free to press the ignore button.
You don't even have to hit the ignore button. If you don't want to read his posts, then just don't read them.
It's really easy, honest.
 

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Seeking a womans approval is beta mindset. One I seek to shed.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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