You guys were right! A 'thank you' thread.

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

AlmostThere!

Senior Don Juan

Feb 26, 2010

zekko said:
Okay, that's worded strangely, now that you point that out.

I took it to mean that when he initiates contact to set up a date he is being a man and a leader, but if he calls too often or too soon he can appear too eager or desperate. And that's where he wants to find that balance. He shouldn't be too rough on himself at this point, because he's just learning.

That's exactly what I meant.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.