You guys think this doesn't mean anything?

[Kian_boem]

so today at work i was sitting at the table waiting to clock into work & the girl who works there was walking over to the bathroom & she hit me on my head softly.

 

[Desdinova]

Did she give good head?

Sounds like she was being playful with you. However, if you work anything but a McJob, don't stick your d1nk in the company ink.

 

[logicallefty]

Sexual misconduct/report to HR ASAP.

I was thinking the same thing. Not that I would actually report this, or that the OP should. But if he were to report her then that would take away her time and energy from ever reporting him for anything frivilous. She would be too busy defending his allegations to FULLY focus on making up her own back at him. That'd be one less woman out of his cubicle war collective that could strike him at full force whenever he looked at her wrong. It's sick that it has came to this, but this it's really getting this ridiculous.

 

[sazc]

I was thinking the same thing. Not that I would actually report this, or that the OP should. But if he were to report her then that would take away her time and energy from ever reporting him for anything frivilous. She would be too busy defending his allegations to FULLY focus on making up her own back at him. That'd be one less woman out of his cubicle war collective that could strike him at full force whenever he looked at her wrong. It's sick that it has came to this, but this it's really getting this ridiculous.

Tis true, she shouldn't be touching him, c ever. What she did could be considered battery.

 

[Spaz]

Hahaha

Edit: OP they r joking. She's just being playful, it's harmless.

 

[Billtx49]

so today at work i was sitting at the table waiting to clock into work & the girl who works there was walking over to the bathroom & she hit me on my head softly.

Well, she certainly got your attention didn’t she …

 

[Murk]

She sounds BPD and highly likely to cheat on you in fact she's probably scheming how to get you into a LTR just to cheat as women are non monogamous, you don't have looks, MONEY or status to keep her. Go NC.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Women do this as part of an elaborate mating ritual. By tapping lightly on your skull, she can use echolocation to detect the average brain mass you possess and decide if you are worthy for breeding. She may follow up with a "smile", which is a gesture that body language scientists are still struggling to decipher to this very day.

Your best bet is to establish a dugout in your place of work and drape it in camouflaged netting. You can then observe the behaviour of the female in her natural environment, and tag potential rivals whom you can lock horns with at your later convenience.

 

[ohrein]

She sounds BPD and highly likely to cheat on you in fact she's probably scheming how to get you into a LTR just to cheat as women are non monogamous, you don't have looks, MONEY or status to keep her. Go NC.

I chuckled.

 

[raider87]

Not interested. Go no contact.

 

[Spaz]

In my opinion it's not harmless at all.

Her workplace conduct is inappropriate and if the roles were reversed OP could well face a reprimand or termination.

But what's most harmful, in my mind, is OPs naive embrace of the double standard.

A male worker touching a female colleague is much more likely to generate a harassment complaint (HR depts. across America comprise nearly 100% females...biatchy, azzhole feminist-type females).

But a woman touching a male colleague merely generates a speculative thread about IOIs.

In my mind this thread shows how men are conditioned to think of themselves as inferior.

It's yet another double standard that no man should be willing to accept.

I'm naive to ur western culture.

Past interactions with western female colleagues (swedish/british) does indicate they r open to it. I touch them and on occasions even favor them with a harmless affectionate kiss.

Actually picked those habits from my female colleagues.

Hence my perception that western women r more open to that sort of interaction as opposed to Asian women.

Seems I stand corrected here.

Edit: Well things might hv changed after a decade or so but seems unlikely as women tend to flirt more often. R women in the US so prudish ?

 

[fanatic22]

In my opinion it's not harmless at all.

Her workplace conduct is inappropriate and if the roles were reversed OP could well face a reprimand or termination.

But what's most harmful, in my mind, is OPs naive embrace of the double standard.

A male worker touching a female colleague is much more likely to generate a harassment complaint (HR depts. across America comprise nearly 100% females...biatchy, azzhole feminist-type females).

But a woman touching a male colleague merely generates a speculative thread about IOIs.

In my mind this thread shows how men are conditioned to think of themselves as inferior.

It's yet another double standard that no man should be willing to accept.

If ANYONE is attracted to ANYONE then touching is totally fine. If roles were reversed this girl would be cool with it.

 

[Billtx49]

If ANYONE is attracted to ANYONE then touching is totally fine. If roles were reversed this girl would be cool with it.

Probably, but you wouldn’t know that until after Ms. Handsy had already taken action…
Either way, it’s usually inappropriate behavior inside a work environment.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

It's all very subjective. If a young, single woman clearly likes you and is friendly with you every day, gently patting her on the head with a friendly grin would not go down as sexual harassment.

There was a girl at my work I became good friends with who would come over and casually sit on my lap sometimes! She fancied me, but we were mates and it didn't go anywhere. It was harmless flirtation.

The difference between harmless workplace flirtation and workplace sexual harassment IMO is threefold:

1. Nature of workplace - The more uptight and "serious" your workplace, the less sensible it is to do any kind of flirtation. This is just common sense. Working in a government position or expensive hotel, you're held to far more esteemed and serious standards than working in a burger joint or casual bar, for example.

2. Relationship - Do you have power over this woman's career? Are you senior to her? In that case, you must 100% NOT take advantage of that, or you're going to go in the great book of sleazy f***ers like Weinstein. In that position, what you may regard as flirting may feel really pressured or even non-consensual to her, and that's the fast track to becoming a lecherous unprofessional douche.

On the other hand, if you're on the same level in the hierarchy and you're genuinely good friends inside and outside of work, it's much more acceptable to flirt and she'll be more receptive.

3. Flirting content: playful and light is okay. Arm punches, cheeky hugs/sidehugs, light hand touching. That's probably the most I'd ever escalate in a work environment. Full on grabbing or otherwise touching or groping a girl's butt, boobs, other intimate touching or being insanely lewd is not ever going to be appropriate. No matter what Dave who supposedly had sex at the Christmas party tells you.

Hitting on girls you work with on a daily basis is a bad idea in general. But it's not utterly terrible in the way it's portrayed on here a lot, IMO. You just have to be very respectful, professional and sensible...even more so than you'd have to be in a social or dating environment.

Don't do it unless you're 100% comfortable with the idea and you're 100% sure she would be too. Simple as.