Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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SeymourCake

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You have all the information here with the DJ bible, archives, and sticky threads.

Why are you all failing miserably?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Three

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I think a part of it is that a lot of us are couch don juans. Most won't ever get up off that couch and start taking the tiniest baby steps to improve themselves and their game. They'll sit there reading their coffee table PUA book and looking at all the pretty pictures.

Others want to jump past the baby steps and try all these fucked up lines or cubes or whatever before they've even learned to make eye contact and say Hi. A house built on sand...
 

Renegade357

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Not sure what you mean. Certainly not everyone here is failing. I have a g/f right now that I'm really into and vice versa. Wouldn't have happened without all the work I put into improving myself.

You gain success from this forum when you develop an awareness of what's going on when you deal with women.
 

VladPatton

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I had no idea we were all failing.
 

Robert28

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girls are more stupid then they were 10 years ago. every year that goes by is more b.s. to put up with from them. kinda hard to get motivated to meet someone decent when wherever you go it's single moms, single moms with tattoo's, hot girls dating nasty looking guys, more single moms, hot girls with 3 fat friends. plus it's football season. fvck b!tches right now.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Renegade357

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Robert28 said:
girls are more stupid then they were 10 years ago. every year that goes by is more b.s. to put up with from them. kinda hard to get motivated to meet someone decent when wherever you go it's single moms, single moms with tattoo's, hot girls dating nasty looking guys, more single moms, hot girls with 3 fat friends. plus it's football season. fvck b!tches right now.
That pretty much sums up 90% of the women out there lol.
 

Robert28

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Renegade357 said:
That pretty much sums up 90% of the women out there lol.
yep and the remaining 10% are made up of: too young to be messing with legally/morally, members of the blue-haired mafia (old), your mom and her friends, your sister, female family members, and the one chick that's married to a no good loser that you ask yourself on a daily basis "how in the fvck did that b@stard get such an awesome wife?".
 

PDubb75

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I'm not failing at all. But I think the main reason people here do fail is because they don't go out and try things. Those people can be classified into 2 categories:

1) They catch on to concepts here, and their expertise on the subject is simply that gained from others posts here. Then in the real world, they put nothing into practice. They sit back and watch, come home to make more posts here.
2) They find excuses why everything talking about here is wrong or doesn't/wouldn't work. Then they keep doing what they were doing, and continue to fail.

I think I came to this site with a slightly different motive than at least some people. I probably have more success with women than most of my friends, and they are usually coming to me for advice (even the ones who do get girls). I came here to increase the quality or girls I could find/attract. I feel my looks are good enough to get me better girls than I had been.

However, I learned a lot here that I didn't expect, and I've switched my whole game up since. Now it has become easier, and I have more confidence.
 

st_99

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if you approach 100 girls with basic game ("hi, im blah blah, whats your name)", its almost impossible to fail.
 

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Since I came to this site my confidence went 1000% up, my social life improved, I'm happier and I got a couple of girls along the way. Now I failed many times, but overally I'm far from failing. Of course I fail sometimes with some girl, but that's just the way to improve, it's impossible without failing and so it might seem that other guys here are also failing while in fact they are just improving.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I didn't start really failing till my hair thinned out rapidly over the past several months. But appearance doesn't matter, so it couldn't possibly be that :whistle:.
 
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