"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SeymourCake

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You have all the information here with the DJ bible, archives, and sticky threads.

Why are you all failing miserably?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I think a part of it is that a lot of us are couch don juans. Most won't ever get up off that couch and start taking the tiniest baby steps to improve themselves and their game. They'll sit there reading their coffee table PUA book and looking at all the pretty pictures.

Others want to jump past the baby steps and try all these fucked up lines or cubes or whatever before they've even learned to make eye contact and say Hi. A house built on sand...
 

Renegade357

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Not sure what you mean. Certainly not everyone here is failing. I have a g/f right now that I'm really into and vice versa. Wouldn't have happened without all the work I put into improving myself.

You gain success from this forum when you develop an awareness of what's going on when you deal with women.
 

VladPatton

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I had no idea we were all failing.
 

Robert28

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girls are more stupid then they were 10 years ago. every year that goes by is more b.s. to put up with from them. kinda hard to get motivated to meet someone decent when wherever you go it's single moms, single moms with tattoo's, hot girls dating nasty looking guys, more single moms, hot girls with 3 fat friends. plus it's football season. fvck b!tches right now.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Renegade357

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Robert28 said:
girls are more stupid then they were 10 years ago. every year that goes by is more b.s. to put up with from them. kinda hard to get motivated to meet someone decent when wherever you go it's single moms, single moms with tattoo's, hot girls dating nasty looking guys, more single moms, hot girls with 3 fat friends. plus it's football season. fvck b!tches right now.
That pretty much sums up 90% of the women out there lol.
 

Robert28

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Renegade357 said:
That pretty much sums up 90% of the women out there lol.
yep and the remaining 10% are made up of: too young to be messing with legally/morally, members of the blue-haired mafia (old), your mom and her friends, your sister, female family members, and the one chick that's married to a no good loser that you ask yourself on a daily basis "how in the fvck did that b@stard get such an awesome wife?".
 

PDubb75

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I'm not failing at all. But I think the main reason people here do fail is because they don't go out and try things. Those people can be classified into 2 categories:

1) They catch on to concepts here, and their expertise on the subject is simply that gained from others posts here. Then in the real world, they put nothing into practice. They sit back and watch, come home to make more posts here.
2) They find excuses why everything talking about here is wrong or doesn't/wouldn't work. Then they keep doing what they were doing, and continue to fail.

I think I came to this site with a slightly different motive than at least some people. I probably have more success with women than most of my friends, and they are usually coming to me for advice (even the ones who do get girls). I came here to increase the quality or girls I could find/attract. I feel my looks are good enough to get me better girls than I had been.

However, I learned a lot here that I didn't expect, and I've switched my whole game up since. Now it has become easier, and I have more confidence.
 

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if you approach 100 girls with basic game ("hi, im blah blah, whats your name)", its almost impossible to fail.
 

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Since I came to this site my confidence went 1000% up, my social life improved, I'm happier and I got a couple of girls along the way. Now I failed many times, but overally I'm far from failing. Of course I fail sometimes with some girl, but that's just the way to improve, it's impossible without failing and so it might seem that other guys here are also failing while in fact they are just improving.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I didn't start really failing till my hair thinned out rapidly over the past several months. But appearance doesn't matter, so it couldn't possibly be that :whistle:.
 
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