She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Lol, spinning plates is a great idea. I only have one little problem with that. Right now I can't get one girl let alone more than one. I was trying to work on several girls at once but they all would reject me (I've since decided to stop trying to get women for right now, if my problem is indeed my attitude about this and myself. Once I feel better about myself than I'll probably resume again).909pua said:Things like this, you can't let get to you, so that's why many in here are advising for you to spin more plates so you don't go nuts on one.
Kal0051 said:Lol, spinning plates is a great idea. I only have one little problem with that. Right now I can't get one girl let alone more than one. I was trying to work on several girls at once but they all would reject me (I've since decided to stop trying to get women for right now, if my problem is indeed my attitude about this and myself. Once I feel better about myself than I'll probably resume again).
this is great advice. But like I said before I don't even have 1 girl to fvck right now, it's actually been a long time since I've had sex. So first thing first is to be able to get 1 girl (even if it's just a ONS or something).909pua said:hey dude, try this. this is what BOOSTED up my confidence in myself big time where I didn't even give a shT about rejection or the outcome of me hitting up on a random girl. Basically what IGETIT said, he hit rock bottom and didnt care anymore. Same with you. Have one good girl on the side that you fvk every now and then. Chill with her as much as you can. Think about the good times you had with this girl, how you acted with her (where you know in the back of your mind that you already have that a$$). After you fvked her you feel good. the next day, you see some random hot girl, pretend she was the girl you fvked last night and talk to her like you just talked to her last night. Pretend you already have her and assume the sale. This is how you should approach women.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
yeah, like the push and pull thing. Will have to try it in the future. Currently it won't do me all that good since I first need to find a girl that's willing to chill with me but it's something I'll definitely use once I find that girl.909pua said:hey man whatever u do, if just a ONS then fine, but if you can keep her as a constant supply, even better. Just make sure you dont AFC over her and do the Push Pull effect. If you want to keep a girl as a constant supply, like what others in here say, rules are meant to be broken. Show her how much you appreciate her in person, by actions only, not words, and when you two aren't chillin, act the opposite, meaning don't call her for like 4 or 5 days, it will run emotions in her and make her wonder what you're doing (her insecurities will come out of her) and you will be separated from all those weak guys in her life that are constantly calling her or asking for her attention. Just make sure that whatever she does to you that you dont like, sometimes act like it doesn't bother you, and sometimes show that it bothers you but not in an AFC way. Like if she flakes on you or doesn't call you back, just say joke around with her like "you flake.." and start poking her. It works for me. It puts them in an emotional loop. I have a steady supply of a$$ right now from 2 girls (1 from a friend, and 1 from wife(whom im thinking of divorcing)) and I'm looking to add more supplies to my life.
that would be none. I got close on 2 occasions. First one was because she was drunk and we were being fairly sexual towards each other all night. But I couldn't do it cause she's a friend of mine, has a boyfriend and I knew she wouldn't want to cheat on him (this was in march and they're still together today). Still was a fun night, lots of flirting and a bit of making out. The second was 6 months later but I somehow screwed up when she was giving me head and didn't want to have sex anymore (she claimed she felt like I didn't really want to have sex with her and felt rejected). We went out on a coffee date after that, I invited her back in to my place, she said no and then started ignoring me anytime I tried to contact her after that night (even went as far as blocking me on facebook). So that's how far I've got this year, I've been here since Jan.909pua said:how many have you fvked since you joined this forum? truthfully?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
lol, it's actually been over a year and a half since I've been laid. Been close a few times like I said but never got passed just getting head. I'd like to get laid, but it seems the more I want it the less likely it'll happen (which just make me want it more).909pua said:damn serious? well tried to get laid first, after your first lay, your perception of life might change.