"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You guys have a set rule for how many times you try and contact a girl?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lol, spinning plates is a great idea. I only have one little problem with that. Right now I can't get one girl let alone more than one. I was trying to work on several girls at once but they all would reject me (I've since decided to stop trying to get women for right now, if my problem is indeed my attitude about this and myself. Once I feel better about myself than I'll probably resume again).909pua said:Things like this, you can't let get to you, so that's why many in here are advising for you to spin more plates so you don't go nuts on one.
Kal0051 said:Lol, spinning plates is a great idea. I only have one little problem with that. Right now I can't get one girl let alone more than one. I was trying to work on several girls at once but they all would reject me (I've since decided to stop trying to get women for right now, if my problem is indeed my attitude about this and myself. Once I feel better about myself than I'll probably resume again).
hey dude, try this. this is what BOOSTED up my confidence in myself big time where I didn't even give a shT about rejection or the outcome of me hitting up on a random girl. Basically what IGETIT said, he hit rock bottom and didnt care anymore. Same with you. Have one good girl on the side that you fvk every now and then. Chill with her as much as you can. Think about the good times you had with this girl, how you acted with her (where you know in the back of your mind that you already have that a$$). After you fvked her you feel good. the next day, you see some random hot girl, pretend she was the girl you fvked last night and talk to her like you just talked to her last night. Pretend you already have her and assume the sale. This is how you should approach women.
THe other day I went up to some blond model looking girl on the go in the airport(I was in Wisconsin for training). She was just standing around like she was waiting for someone and a bunch of guys were checkin her out. Some guy sat next to her and she got up and left. Since I knew she's from out of state and I was leaving back here to California and the time is short, its just better to get the best out of the situation. So it was a confidence booster. I went up to her and the convo went something like this:
me: hey whats up what are you doing here? (pretending like i just saw her last night)
her: oh just waiting for a friend of mine.
me: friend arriving here from a flight?
her: yeah
me: wow, are you some kind of model or something?
her: yeah, i used to when i was younger
me: where are you from?
her: New York City
me: Wow, crazy..you are tall. Hey i'm on the go right now, let me get a picture with you really quick
her: ok sure..
so i got a pic with her (anyone in here wanna see how she looks?) well anyways, i did all this in under 1 minute.
So this is how you should approach women, act like her a$$ is already yours and pretend you were just talking or hitting that the night before.
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this is great advice. But like I said before I don't even have 1 girl to fvck right now, it's actually been a long time since I've had sex. So first thing first is to be able to get 1 girl (even if it's just a ONS or something).909pua said:hey dude, try this. this is what BOOSTED up my confidence in myself big time where I didn't even give a shT about rejection or the outcome of me hitting up on a random girl. Basically what IGETIT said, he hit rock bottom and didnt care anymore. Same with you. Have one good girl on the side that you fvk every now and then. Chill with her as much as you can. Think about the good times you had with this girl, how you acted with her (where you know in the back of your mind that you already have that a$$). After you fvked her you feel good. the next day, you see some random hot girl, pretend she was the girl you fvked last night and talk to her like you just talked to her last night. Pretend you already have her and assume the sale. This is how you should approach women.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
hey man whatever u do, if just a ONS then fine, but if you can keep her as a constant supply, even better. Just make sure you dont AFC over her and do the Push Pull effect. If you want to keep a girl as a constant supply, like what others in here say, rules are meant to be broken. Show her how much you appreciate her in person, by actions only, not words, and when you two aren't chillin, act the opposite, meaning don't call her for like 4 or 5 days, it will run emotions in her and make her wonder what you're doing (her insecurities will come out of her) and you will be separated from all those weak guys in her life that are constantly calling her or asking for her attention. Just make sure that whatever she does to you that you dont like, sometimes act like it doesn't bother you, and sometimes show that it bothers you but not in an AFC way. Like if she flakes on you or doesn't call you back, just say joke around with her like "you flake.." and start poking her. It works for me. It puts them in an emotional loop. I have a steady supply of a$$ right now from 2 girls (1 from a friend, and 1 from wife(whom im thinking of divorcing)) and I'm looking to add more supplies to my life.
yeah, like the push and pull thing. Will have to try it in the future. Currently it won't do me all that good since I first need to find a girl that's willing to chill with me but it's something I'll definitely use once I find that girl.909pua said:hey man whatever u do, if just a ONS then fine, but if you can keep her as a constant supply, even better. Just make sure you dont AFC over her and do the Push Pull effect. If you want to keep a girl as a constant supply, like what others in here say, rules are meant to be broken. Show her how much you appreciate her in person, by actions only, not words, and when you two aren't chillin, act the opposite, meaning don't call her for like 4 or 5 days, it will run emotions in her and make her wonder what you're doing (her insecurities will come out of her) and you will be separated from all those weak guys in her life that are constantly calling her or asking for her attention. Just make sure that whatever she does to you that you dont like, sometimes act like it doesn't bother you, and sometimes show that it bothers you but not in an AFC way. Like if she flakes on you or doesn't call you back, just say joke around with her like "you flake.." and start poking her. It works for me. It puts them in an emotional loop. I have a steady supply of a$$ right now from 2 girls (1 from a friend, and 1 from wife(whom im thinking of divorcing)) and I'm looking to add more supplies to my life.
how many have you fvked since you joined this forum? truthfully? Me, i joined back in JUne and only fvked one, which is the one i have right now, but have talked to a handful of women since I joined vs. when i didn't join. So this site is kinda helping me. My goal by next June is to fvck or have in my rotation a total of at least five steady sources of a$$. But before this site, I fvcked maybe 10 girls (but they were all from massage parlors and I paid $$$). I realized this is not the way to go and its for guys who can't get a real girl on the side. Don't get me wrong, I fvcked some dime b$tches even though they were doing it for $$$. I was desperate at that point during that time. But all has changed and my view of life has changed since this site.
that would be none. I got close on 2 occasions. First one was because she was drunk and we were being fairly sexual towards each other all night. But I couldn't do it cause she's a friend of mine, has a boyfriend and I knew she wouldn't want to cheat on him (this was in march and they're still together today). Still was a fun night, lots of flirting and a bit of making out. The second was 6 months later but I somehow screwed up when she was giving me head and didn't want to have sex anymore (she claimed she felt like I didn't really want to have sex with her and felt rejected). We went out on a coffee date after that, I invited her back in to my place, she said no and then started ignoring me anytime I tried to contact her after that night (even went as far as blocking me on facebook). So that's how far I've got this year, I've been here since Jan.909pua said:how many have you fvked since you joined this forum? truthfully?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
lol, it's actually been over a year and a half since I've been laid. Been close a few times like I said but never got passed just getting head. I'd like to get laid, but it seems the more I want it the less likely it'll happen (which just make me want it more).909pua said:damn serious? well tried to get laid first, after your first lay, your perception of life might change.
I should add that at this point I have no idea how I'll get laid anytime soon. All the girls I've met recently haven't been interested in me. Even one I was chatting with today and gave my number to didn't seem all that interested (she never even gave me her number, but that could be because her bf dumped her last week or something. Who knows.).