I'm having a bit of a breakdown here fellas. This is the hottest chick I've ever had interested in me and she's lost interest in me. The truth is there will always be another girl we've all been through the process a thousand times but sometimes it gets to you. I'm currently in the worst slump of my life....I've yet to bang the past three women I've been out with and even worse I made out on more than one occasion with all of them. I truly believe you have a 3 week window and a maximum of 4-5 dates to get in a girls pants before she loses interest in you...got a date with an 8 tonight and I won't even be able to enjoy it because this other chick is on my mind.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
you ever worry there wont be another?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Skyline
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It's that genuine feeling that they give off that gets you when a girl has high interest. They just lock eyes with you and it's a crazy feeling... Plus some of their questions, that would normally be a sh*t test, actually feel and sound genuine. It's kind of how a woman with BPD captures you.captain55 said:
I recommend going a few weeks with no fap while seeing these women, it'll help your cave man urgers and stop you from being a woman until you find another one that gives you that genuine feeling again.
Imagine if you put the same care and effort into getting money. Sleeping on your bed , anxious for the next day to make more money because you are scared of being broke.
It's a mindset man , you stupid if you think a "modern" woman will love you for who you are. Get some money , improve your looks and assets and watch them come to you.
It's a mindset man , you stupid if you think a "modern" woman will love you for who you are. Get some money , improve your looks and assets and watch them come to you.
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1. You worry because you don't place much value on yourself.
2. You don't have options.
The first in achieved by improving in those areas that are *really* important to you.
The second is achieved by approaching tons of girls.
2. You don't have options.
The first in achieved by improving in those areas that are *really* important to you.
The second is achieved by approaching tons of girls.
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A don juan state of mind is always in a state of abundance. Not just in women, but money, happiness, health, opportunities, etc...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Bud, the truth is that when we fall into a repetitive cycle it’s hard to figure out what the problem truly is. Yet if you view your last few threads, it’s pretty easy to decipher that somewhere along the way your self confidence level has really taken a dip. You seem to be pressuring yourself to bang these chicks. Yet the only reason that you seem to be doing it is to receive some sort of validation from them that you’re good enough to bang them. It’s like if you don’t have sex with them that you consider it a failure.
You admittedly have a date with an HB8 (on your scale) yet you choose to wallow in the one that got away. Recognize any patterns building up here?? Do yourself a favor. Forget about the validation you seem to require from these chicks you’re making out with. Why don’t you step back and re adjust your frame and self-confidence before this starts to get real ugly?
You live in a world of millions of women and say you won’t meet another like one. The odds are more in your favor that you’ll meet hundreds to thousands just like her. Good luck.
You admittedly have a date with an HB8 (on your scale) yet you choose to wallow in the one that got away. Recognize any patterns building up here?? Do yourself a favor. Forget about the validation you seem to require from these chicks you’re making out with. Why don’t you step back and re adjust your frame and self-confidence before this starts to get real ugly?
You live in a world of millions of women and say you won’t meet another like one. The odds are more in your favor that you’ll meet hundreds to thousands just like her. Good luck.
Read your other thread aswell. Dont put all your eggs in one basket and stop thinking about never meeting another. Some lads struggle just to get to the stage where they get a kiss or a date. You been with 3 women so take that as a positive.
Try not to just think about banging these girls as it can come across that way to girls. They have a sixth sense when you just wanna smash them. Instead try easing off a bit n showing theres more your interested in, even if your not.
I ve always find if i want a shag i get **** all, then if i dont look for it, it comes to me.
Try not to just think about banging these girls as it can come across that way to girls. They have a sixth sense when you just wanna smash them. Instead try easing off a bit n showing theres more your interested in, even if your not.
I ve always find if i want a shag i get **** all, then if i dont look for it, it comes to me.
Everyone has slumps. Always darkest before dawn. I remember I d nearly given up after a run of flakes. Got a call from an 8. Lived with her for 5 years. As my old boxing coach said don't try for the knock out it will come. And if u have to go bang some 5 to get the no sex stink off do it. Yr pride will grow back. Luck bro.
While that is probably true in practice, it seems to just be compounding one fear on top of another. Your fear of being broke combined with the fear of not being good enough for her, and so you scurry about your whole life trying to patch up that hole of fear instead of really facing it.Fitters said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.