"You don't seem amused so I'll let you go"

[Meisterman]

I was texting a girl I met online and we were talking for a while. Turns out she lives right near me in a rural town which is very surprising because I know hardly no one in that area. She was saying how we should meet up and I should party with her this summer and whatnot. She's 18 and I'm 22. Then she says she could show me some fun ones so I reply "Yea maybe lol" mostly just because I'm past that stage and I have no interest partying with a bunch of 18 year olds if that's what she had had in mind.

Then she says "Okay. How old are you?" I told her 22 but I know she already knew, then she says "Oh okay. I'm 18" I said "Cool" then she says "You seem unamused so I'll let you go."

I told her I wasn't and then she asked what I was doing and I told her getting ready for bed and I'll talk to her later and she ignored it. Mind you this was after a bit of texting which normally I don't do but as I said I met her online so I had to introduce myself etc. She was super talkative before this, like surprising how fast she was texting and asking me stuff.

What do you think it means why she flipped a complete 180 after being all giddy and chirpy? I'm thinking maybe insecurities or she feels embarrassed since I'm older and I wasn't reciprocating her level of interest? Also when I should reach out next if she doesn't?

I really don't care I'm just curious if this is a sign of decreased IL, super high IL, or just a sh*t test to see how I respond. Curious on your guys' take on it.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Hard to diagnose any problem with such few info.

Anyway that "yeah maybe lol" sounded condescending, more like the tone you would speak to a drunk guy asking you to pay the next turn.

Then she told you she was 18 and you replied with a simple "cool" again, I find those monoword replies not to support the conversation, if I were you I would have replied something different, something not too c0cky but implicitly sexual like "glad to know so I wont be arrested to talk to you"... while you both know what they real meaning was and now she is thinking about it.

Then again "Im ready to go to bed" really? I mean there is nothing wrong with that but something like "I have some stuff to do that has to be done before tomorrow morning" sounds better, you dont sound boring while at the same time you stimulate her curiosity.

 

[Meisterman]

Yeah we were texting for a while so eventually my responses just got shorter and shorter because I was getting bored of it. Hopefully it's not detrimental moving forward though.

 

[El Payaso]

Typical woman. Her fragile ego is just crushed that you're not as giddy as her. She is probably used to guys jumping head over heels at her every request.

By being cool, calm and nonchalant, you made yourself stand out. There's no need to explain yourself when she says you seem unamused.

You simply let her go and pick up the conversation another day. In fact, I think that moment would have been a good time to ask her out or just to come over.

A simple "Yeah, texts don't really amuse me. We'll grab coffee/drinks instead at so-so place at so-so time" would have worked.

 

[Meisterman]

So I should hit her up again another day even though I texted her last?

 

[Zion]

Texting without a purpose does that to you.

 

[MountainSlide]

From my experience, this is pretty standard ****. Woman starts by idealizing you and you'll be thinking that the chick is coming on too strong, then you go into some sort of comfort zone assuming that she will continue to idealize you and BOOOM! She pulls a 180 and then you are left posting questions on the DJ discussion forum asking questions why this happened. It's funny because you weren't even interested until she suddenly pulled away, then hook and sink. Move on, and maybe in the summer when you are looking for a little action make a call.

 

[Skinnylove]

From my experience, this is pretty standard ****. Woman starts by idealizing you and you'll be thinking that the chick is coming on too strong, then you go into some sort of comfort zone assuming that she will continue to idealize you and BOOOM! She pulls a 180 and then you are left posting questions on the DJ discussion forum asking questions why this happened. It's funny because you weren't even interested until she suddenly pulled away, then hook and sink. Move on, and maybe in the summer when you are looking for a little action make a call.

The hook and sink theory seems reasonable.Still,it ain't right to assume every action a chick takes is manipulative in some form.She detected low interest on your part and pulled away to save herself.It's a females's version of walking away.Doesn't necessarily demonstrate power,but rather necessity.

 

[Masculinity]

It sounds like the typical behavior of the average 18-22 year old: the attention of a housefly, flipping back and forth based on emotion, and just erratic behavior. She's probably used to guys kissing her behind and finds it surprising that you aren't drooling over her. I would just continue the interaction as if nothing had happened. Be warned, though, that the above behavior is how most young women will behave.

 

[gravityeyelids]

There's non chalant....and then there's just plain boring. Which is where your texts fall. Yea she's flippant, but your text game is just kinda lame to be honest. Being casual will come off fine when you delay your responses and dont seem in a hurry to text back right away.

She's an 18 year old girl. She wants fun! She wants a guy that will bust on her and tease her and make fun of her and send her fun sh!t and do goofy roleplays, etc. etc...not a guy that just texts back "cool" or "yea maybe lol"

Text her some fun sh!t!! Not logical, typical stuff. As her if she wants to run off to vegas and get married, tell her you have a private jet and a ring pop for her and that she needs to show up in a black dress and heels. Tell her you want to plan a heist and you need her to seduce the security guard. Just say absolute nonsense to keep her guessing.

If you're not progressing the interaction towards a meetup pretty soon, you should at least be fun and witty.

And if she's boring and doesn't give you anything to go off of, then move on to the next one. I personally hate girls who can't dish it out as well as they take it and just respond with sh!t like "oh haha lol" or "hah okay lol".

As a side note, i've found almost every single online girl to be boring as fvck and low quality.

 

[om1xr]

I realized two truths in the last couple of months when it comes to dating, texting, work, fun and any other area of life:

1- inner reality determines outer reality.

2- outflow determines inflow.

what I'm trying to say here is that if you are bored and she is bored then don't expect to have an exciting/interesting conversations or interactions either over texts/calls or in person.

and if you are a lame ass boring person don't expect to meet or interact with fun, exciting, interesting people who are worth to know because what you give(outflow) is what you get (inflow). and if you are a person of value (man or woman) then you are going to attract the same kind and people who are without value or just plain boring are not going to interest you or you are not going to interest them because you both are looking for different things to feed on.

Now back to the OP: the interaction was boring and you both were bored and no one played the entertainer in that conversation.

contact here again for sure but you should either excite the he!! out of here to meet you or just be as direct as a fvcking missile and ask here out on the first text. If it's a yes then you go for it if it's a no then move on because I started to see more skirts these days than birds.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You over gamed her, meaning you were playing games when she wasn't. Your fault man.

 

[VladPatton]

Texting without a purpose does that to you.

This!!!! Have a purpose to texting.

 

[Meisterman]

You over gamed her, meaning you were playing games when she wasn't. Your fault man.

But the thing is I wasn't. I was just texting how I normally would. It wasn't to draw a reaction out of her, and it wasn't to get her feelin' some type of way.

To those who say text with a purpose, I KNOW. But I have literally scared multiple girls away I met online by trying to get them to hang out the first time texting, so I just played it cool this time.

Anyway I don't think it's detrimental guys. Honestly I wouldn't really have done much different at all other than maybe stop trying to rationalize myself by saying I'm not unamused.

As a couple people mentioned, young girls are expected to act like this. I shouldn't be surprised considering she's just 18.

 

[Chamber36]

What happened to amused mastery, indifference and abundance mentality?

 

[MountainSlide]

The hook and sink theory seems reasonable.Still,it ain't right to assume every action a chick takes is manipulative in some form.She detected low interest on your part and pulled away to save herself.It's a females's version of walking away.Doesn't necessarily demonstrate power,but rather necessity.

I agree that it isn't always right to assume that every action is a deliberate manipulation. But it is also fair to say that there are a lot of ****ed up chicks out there. The very fact that this chick was so into him right away, before even meeting him, is a red flag. Because ****ed up people seem to always go from instant idealization to cold and distant, in the snap of a finger.

 

[Skinnylove]

The very fact that this chick was so into him right away, before even meeting him, is a red flag. Because ****ed up people seem to always go from instant idealization to cold and distant, in the snap of a finger.

In a sence,a typicall mastermind is supposed to inspire adoration in a woman.Every chick supposedly idealizes the guy she's into if he provides enough bread to feed her hamster-hungry brain.It's much better to idolize yourself into your magical reality,then the chick confirms for herself,that you're truly awesome.I think any and every interaction should produced some effect on you,unless of course your not that into the interaction to begin with.All I'm saying is,no matter how ****ed up she is,if you are attractive she'll find a hard time just 'snapping her fingers and walking away.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Just wait a few days and text her again like none of that ever happened. You should be fine, it won't make a difference. Make sure to ask her out within the first 3 texts once you initiate tho...as in:

First text---blah blah blah...
Her response

You: "So what's your schedule like coming up this week, thought we could go _______ together"
Her: Tells you what days

You: "OK I have Day1 or Day2 free next week, which one works better for you?"
Her: Answer

You: OK, let's meet at PlaceName at ThisTime
Her: OK, sounds good


Then don't contact her until the date.

Done.

 

[MountainSlide]

In a sence,a typicall mastermind is supposed to inspire adoration in a woman.Every chick supposedly idealizes the guy she's into if he provides enough bread to feed her hamster-hungry brain.It's much better to idolize yourself into your magical reality,then the chick confirms for herself,that you're truly awesome.I think any and every interaction should produced some effect on you,unless of course your not that into the interaction to begin with.All I'm saying is,no matter how ****ed up she is,if you are attractive she'll find a hard time just 'snapping her fingers and walking away.

Overall -- I agree.

 

[stevo]

"Yeah maybe" in woman.ese means no.

So she offered you a good time, you respond with no and she goes cold turkey. Not a mystery

You drifted from talking like a man to talking like a girl. When you're bored of a convo get out of the convo.

Give her about 4days after that text happened, text her to meet up. Always have a plan/agenda.

Remember you don't have to build rapport through text that's what you do on dates.

If you're not texting to fcuk, you shouldn't be texting at all.