"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You don't know what confidence is

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I think we all agree confidence is one of the main traits in attracting women, and one thing I've noticed about the majority of guys in here... is that they have a false definition of what "confidence" is. Ironically most end up displaying the exact opposite. And that's a by-product of over-analyzing. Another major problem on this forum. It's an epidemic.

I've read countless threads from people with text messege exchanges between the girl and I cringe at how bleak the real conversations must be. You want to say something "C&F", you want to show her you're in charge, you want her to know you're not a pushover, right? Guess what? That's not confidence. That's insecurity. Why are you doing all that?

Because you care what she thinks about you.

confidence – noun
1. full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing: We have every confidence in our ability to succeed.

If you just got a number from a HB on Wednesday, and you call her the next day to see if she's free on the weekened, there's nothing wrong with it. If you question yourself though - thinking it might be too early to call, that's a problem, because you're no longer 'confident'. You're 'unsure'. Those two words are polar opposites.

Many, if not all problems most guys have can be solved with confidence. Proof? Most guys here have the knowledge, yet what are they doing? They're asking questions. But there's nothing wrong with asking questions right? There is if you're asking these:

When do I call?
She canceled the date, should I text or wait?
G/F dumped me, now what?
G/F is going to dinner with ex, should I speak up?
She wouldn't let me, is it a sh!t test?
Should I buy her a birthday present?
etc. etc.

Confidence is about believing in YOURSELF. Anytime you feel the need to question yourself or ask for someone else's opinion... it's no longer confidence. It's insecureness. Remember that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Obey Propaganda said:
I think we all agree confidence is one of the main traits in attracting women, and one thing I've noticed about the majority of guys in here... is that they have a false definition of what "confidence" is. Ironically most end up displaying the exact opposite. And that's a by-product of over-analyzing. Another major problem on this forum. It's an epidemic.

I've read countless threads from people with text messege exchanges between the girl and I cringe at how bleak the real conversations must be. You want to say something "C&F", you want to show her you're in charge, you want her to know you're not a pushover, right? Guess what? That's not confidence. That's insecurity. Why are you doing all that?

Because you care what she thinks about you.

confidence – noun
1. full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing: We have every confidence in our ability to succeed.

If you just got a number from a HB on Wednesday, and you call her the next day to see if she's free on the weekened, there's nothing wrong with it. If you question yourself though - thinking it might be too early to call, that's a problem, because you're no longer 'confident'. You're 'unsure'. Those two words are polar opposites.

Many, if not all problems most guys have can be solved with confidence. Proof? Most guys here have the knowledge, yet what are they doing? They're asking questions. But there's nothing wrong with asking questions right? There is if you're asking these:

When do I call?
She canceled the date, should I text or wait?
G/F dumped me, now what?
G/F is going to dinner with ex, should I speak up?
She wouldn't let me, is it a sh!t test?
Should I buy her a birthday present?
etc. etc.

Confidence is about believing in YOURSELF. Anytime you feel the need to question yourself or ask for someone else's opinion... it's no longer confidence. It's insecureness. Remember that.
Good post OP!

If you love yourself confidence will come naturally because you no longer need women or anything to make you feel good and you communicate this to the woman in many different ways. Thats why loving yourself is so important.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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