Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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You don't always need 9s and 10s

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Just saying its a lot of threads about looks but guys you dont always have to go for 9s and 10s. 6s, 7s and 8s have vaginas too and they are just as good. Not to mention 9s and 10s often have ****ty personalities because they usually get by on just looks.

Not to mention often times 9s and 10s bring drama because its always some chump trying to bang your girl.

Just saying ill take a 6 who I can bang effortlessly over a 10 I have to put in work for.
Discuss.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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its funny how guys progress in life as far as how they look at women.

I remember when i was in high school, I generally thought there were a only handfull of hot girls. At my age now, i think almost every high school girl is hot.

When I was in college, there were more hot girls i thought, but still, not a ton. Again, most college girls are hot, when I look at them now.

At this point, when i look at girls closer to my age, a lot more goes into how hot i think they are, its more the whole package, but again.. it doesn't seem like there are ton out there. lol.

So the lesson is I guess, when i'm like fifty, im going to say, you dumbass, at 30 they were all hot. you should have been banging everything in sight! haha.
 

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Agreed. Took me too long to realize this. I think a lot of people want the top tier women because they can't have them. When I was a geeky, poorly dressed, insecure, shy lardass, I wanted the hotties so bad. They were unreachable, indifferent, confident, ****y, uninterested... They seemed like a great prize. Just this aura of greatness around them. Once I worked on myself, and got up to their level - I realized they were all garbage. Shallow, snobby, stuck up, high maintenance, demanding, rude, etc. The chase was much better than the catch. These people are horrible.

Nowadays I go for cute and nice, and there's flocks of them now that I moved to the south. Hot chicks mean nothing anymore. But, you have to experience it to realize this. Much like how people think being bad is so much fun, easy, and comes with all these perks. Hell to the no it doesn't.

Experience is needed. Most guys haven't experienced it yet, or don't realize that things are never going to get better. A skank will always be a skank. You have nothing to do with who they are. All of this **** you're complaining about in regards to what they're doing, how they act, what they talk about, what they want, and everything else that pisses you off (drama, immaturity, unintelligence, etc)? That's them. It doesn't matter if you're God - they're still going to be this way. If not with you - it will be someone else. Same ****, different partner.
 

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I think most girls who aren't obese or dirty looking and under 30 are doable. Just saying you guys would lay more if you lower your standards. A 7 can be a 10 with a little extra makeup.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Quality over quantity. You guys are letting yourself off the hook. How are you going to get better at game if you are constantly dumpster diving?
 

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Sofomore said:
Quality over quantity. You guys are letting yourself off the hook. How are you going to get better at game if you are constantly dumpster diving?
Game only works if you play with people in your own league. Its not dumpster diving to go for a girl who is not a model. If a dude who is a 5 or 6 constantly goes after girls who are 9's or 10's he will not improve his game....he will destroy his confidence.
 

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I disagree.

Only go for the most beautiful women. Why? Because it desensitizes you to the second most beautiful women, and then you'll have the right attitude around them.

Also, other women see you with her and they preapprove you and know you have the highest standards.

Even if you get shot down, there is no shame. You overachieve to get her, you don't underachieve to lose her.
 
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Quality over quantity. You guys are letting yourself off the hook. How are you going to get better at game if you are constantly dumpster diving?
You're missing the point entirely. Who wants a snooty 10 who has no personality and can't fk to save herself. Gimme a 7 that's gonna fk hard all night and have some sort of character about her any day of the week.
 

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st_99 said:
its funny how guys progress in life as far as how they look at women.

I remember when i was in high school, I generally thought there were a only handfull of hot girls. At my age now, i think almost every high school girl is hot.

When I was in college, there were more hot girls i thought, but still, not a ton. Again, most college girls are hot, when I look at them now.

At this point, when i look at girls closer to my age, a lot more goes into how hot i think they are, its more the whole package, but again.. it doesn't seem like there are ton out there. lol.

So the lesson is I guess, when i'm like fifty, im going to say, you dumbass, at 30 they were all hot. you should have been banging everything in sight! haha.
ha ha that's a great post. I ve just been flipping through the pages of my old year books from schools I went to, and boy, did I go for all the wrong women! I went as far as looking some chicks up and needless to say my whole taste has changed and only now have I realized the potential of all those girls I failed to see.
I suppose our "taste" for women matures over time. Be open- minded, guys, and don't let some opportunities just go by you. Resentment is probably the worse thing one can deal with. Especially consider this if you are looking to have a long term partner.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cola said:
Not to mention often times 9s and 10s bring drama because its always some chump trying to bang your girl.
I agree with this. I don't believe in 10s, so that just narrows it down to 9s. The true 9s that I've dated, you couldn't go anywhere with them without several guys coming out of nowhere and trying to hit on them. I found that got tiresome really quick.
 

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I'll go for anything that looks good. Even uglier girls look good if they take care of themselves. And tits is always a qualifier, I mean she would have to be hideous for a nice set of tits to not make her passable.

I love just plain weird chicks too, those are the ones that decide that giving really good blow jobs is something they want to do in life.
 

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Well a girl can be weird and not necessarily crazy.. I mean piercings with funny likes and habits weird... But yeah crazy girls are awesome lays too usually. Sex can be a way if life for them, not just something you do with your boyfriend.
 

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You're missing the point entirely. Who wants a snooty 10 who has no personality and can't fk to save herself. Gimme a 7 that's gonna fk hard all night and have some sort of character about her any day of the week.
No, I am not missing the point.

First, there is no such thing as a "10". This is a social construct. You have been raised to believe that there is a "perfect" woman. Lower that number to 9 and you will be in the right mindset that no woman is flawless.

Second, by lowering your standards you are lowering your own value. If you have enough money to afford a nice gourmet meal, why would you go for McDonalds?

Third, by using Plate Theory, your "10 who has no personality and can't fk to save herself" would be automatically filtered. You can find a 9 that has great looks, a great personality, a lot going for herself, AND can fk like a freak. They are hard to come across, let alone game, but there are plenty out there.

Why sell yourself short? When you do finally come across a quality woman, you have been practicing on 7's, making yourself a 7. Are you high enough quality for her? No, because you sold yourself short.

Not trying to personally attack you but it sounds like you are too lazy or scared of rejection. So what if you get rejected by a 9? At least you tried. If you reflect on it, you will learn something valuable and not make the mistake the next time.
 

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Young Stallion said:
Game only works if you play with people in your own league. Its not dumpster diving to go for a girl who is not a model. If a dude who is a 5 or 6 constantly goes after girls who are 9's or 10's he will not improve his game....he will destroy his confidence.
Entirely false. A dude that constantly goes after girls who are 9's has BALLS. Something most guys seem to lack.

If he is changing up his game and adjusting based on his rejections, he will eventually succeed. Fake it till you make it.

No point in settling for mediocrity.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Over the course of my life, I have consistantly gone after the most attractive women. I just never thought of settling for less than that. No need to. Sure, been rejected but who cares? When I was not rejected, it sure paid off.

The key is to find a very attractive woman who's hamster is intact and doesn't require xanax to function properly.
 

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well im not looking for 9s or 10s but come on man....i cant bed a 1 or 2
well at my place i can hardly find a 6 so..limited choice untill i leave this god forsaken town....
 

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5string said:
Dunno

Over the course of my life, I have consistantly gone after the most attractive women. I just never thought of settling for less than that. No need to. Sure, been rejected but who cares? When I was not rejected, it sure paid off.

The key is to find a very attractive woman who's hamster is intact and doesn't require xanax to function properly.
I'm starting to believe there's more chance of being struck by lightning, ha..
 

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I've never really been one to walk into a room and say "Okay, I have to get the prettiest girl in here". Instead I look for some girl who kind of jumps out at me for some reason, there's something about her that I find attractive. Some special little magic she has going on that finds its way to my radar. That may or may not be who most would consider the prettiest girl in the room.

I basically consider 6-9s doable (I don't believe in 10s, and 9s are damn rare on my scale). I may not always get a 9, but I refuse to go lower than a 6. Bottom line, I have to find the girl attractive. I don't get the idea of screwing some ug or fattie just so you can get laid.
 

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zekko said:
I've never really been one to walk into a room and say "Okay, I have to get the prettiest girl in here". Instead I look for some girl who kind of jumps out at me for some reason, there's something about her that I find attractive. Some special little magic she has going on that finds its way to my radar. That may or may not be who most would consider the prettiest girl in the room.

I basically consider 6-9s doable (I don't believe in 10s, and 9s are damn rare on my scale). I may not always get a 9, but I refuse to go lower than a 6. Bottom line, I have to find the girl attractive. I don't get the idea of screwing some ug or fattie just so you can get laid.
I tried with 6s that I didnt like much and went soft inside their pvssies, apparently for some people the eye test have lower criteria than the boner test.

No idea how people can nail ugs or fatties just to get laid.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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